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Hi,

I think I answered you a week or two ago, but please listen now. I too have a bone marrow malignancy and I was a self pay at the age of 57. Since 08/06 I have lost 100 pounds, and my bone marrow is better than ever. My mother gave me a hard time, and my daughter would show me baby food in the super market and make fun of me. DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO> We did for them all these years and now it is OUR TURN>Do not let anyone, anyone talk you out of this. If the doctor says he can do it GO AHEAD. Perhaps, as I have found out, they are jealous and feel threatened by our continued success. I wish you health.

Fran

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You are doing this for YOU. If your son and daughter in law never approve of your wishes that is too bad, this is your life! I believe once you have it done and start losing the weight they will love the way you feel about yourself mentally and physically.

Good luck to you, and prayers for your medical conditions. I was banded on May 23rd and feel wonderful.

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Another wayt to approach your son is to tell him that up until now you have been open with him about what you are doing in your life but if sharing your life with him is going to cause problems, you'd rather keep it to yourself. Let him know that you've put real thought into this decision, that you believe that going through with this is what you believe will give you your best shot at survival and that having your families support in this decision would mean the world to you.

good luck!

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