mariela_n3 3 Posted February 9, 2015 Hey guys. I have been thru this process before. My insurance has approved and last minute I backed out from the fear of anxiety, panic attacks, extra skin, looking sick and so on. I don't have much support. I am 35 with three kids that are very dependent on me as we don't have much family. I know that I hate my stomach. It's so affected me so much I have stopped having sex. I hate my body is gross. And I am ashamed of my hubby looking at me. I want to be content. But fear has paralyzed me. I saw my surgeon last week and was looking forward to getting the lap band but I was told that she would recommend the gastric sleeve as my BMI is 44. She said that the risk of the band are slimmer during the operation but they are higher as time goes on due to the foreign object in my body... So the sleeve it will be. I need motivation from those who have had the surgery. Thanks guys. ???????????? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
samuelsmom 670 Posted February 9, 2015 I had the sleeve done 2 1/2 months ago. It was by far the easiest surgery I have ever had. There is always a surgical risk, however, it is very low and keeping a high BMI has lots of risk too! If you really want to have this surgery, don't let fear stop you. You may also want to do some "soul searching" to decide if this really is for you and the reasons you want to have it done. I am very happy to be on this side of the surgery and down 64lbs. It has been worth it! Good Luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mariela_n3 3 Posted February 9, 2015 Thank so much. That means a lot. I think about this often and if I would have done this the last 2 times I would have been out about 2 years post op. I am soul searching. I have stopped my life because of this weight and I want to live. Live happy, healthy and with no regret. I am happy to know that there are individuals who are in the other side and are fine and okay. I appreciate your help!! ???????????????????? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mclorrie 219 Posted February 9, 2015 Yay!! Good luck with your surgery! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slimsoon1988 123 Posted February 9, 2015 If you are mentally ready then I say go for it. Due to my weight I have isolated myself, stopped dating, stopped accepting invitations to go out. Life is passing me by as I sit in my empty room eating away. I want a new life! I want to be happy! I want to be free of this weight! I too have fears but the prospects of living a longer/happier life out weighs my fears. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mariela_n3 3 Posted February 10, 2015 That's a good question how do someone knows that they are mentally ready for anything. I trust God. I know that with his strengths I can do anything. I m always questioning my decision and that's what sucks. Thank you so much!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mariela_n3 3 Posted February 10, 2015 Thank you mcclorie Share this post Link to post Share on other sites