Couples doing WLS together?

[Kichi 9]

Anyone do WLS with a spouse? DH and I are both getting ready for bypass, and we are going next week to schedule our surgeries. We plan to have me go first & then he will have surgery once I am healed enough because we have a little one at home. So I was wondering if 2 weeks will be enough time for me to feel up to chasing my little one around the house so that DH can get his surgery? Also I would love to hear any couples success stories.

[ambernamber 84]

My fiance and I are both having WLS. I'm having the RNY Bypass and he is having the sleeve. His surgery is two weeks after mine but he origianlly had it scheduled for the day after mine. Hopefully having both of us do this will help keep each other motivated Good luck to you and your spouse!!!

[woo woo 872]

I was forbidden to lift anything over 10 lbs for three full weeks after surgery.

[Kichi 9]

Ambernamber when is your surgery? I'm thinking mine will be mid March.

They told me not to lift anything over 25lbs for 2 weeks, my little one is 24 lbs and they thought that would be ok as long as I'm not doing anything crazy with her. I'm more concerned about having the energy to keep up with her and help DH recover. She enrolled in a daycare, so I will be able to send her there whenever I need to.

Are there any driving restrictions post op?

[Mommabird 367]

I was told not to drive until after my second post-op appointment at 2 weeks and not until I was off pain meds.

[ambernamber 84]

My surgery is Tuesday, February 3rd. My fiance's surgery is Monday February 16th. As soon as I got the approval from my insurance the scheduling was really fast.

My doctor hasn't said anything about lifting restrictions (although I am sure it will come up in my pre-op) but he did mention that he personally does not have a driving restriction. Just as long as you are not on any narcotics and can perform the nesscary dutites it takes to drive (ie looking over you shoulder, wearing a seat belt) you can drive as soon as you are ready.

As for energy, my mom had the surgery about 14 years ago when my brother and I were around 8 and 4. She was worried too about not having the energy to help my dad take care of us. She found that as soon as she was feeling better that she had enough energy to take care of my brother and I (even more energy then before her surgery). So it all really depends on how you heal. It took my mom about a week or two before she could really get back into the swing of things.

[hicksfamily 0]

I had my RNY on 12/23 and my husband had his on 12/30. We have 2 young daughters. I was fine to take care of my girls. I even went back to work the week my husband had his surgery. I was tired but manageable. I would recommend 2 weeks apart.

[Kichi 9]

Thank you for sharing! How has it been going? I am so ready to just have it done.

[hicksfamily 0]

Well it has been going pretty well. My husband had list 55 lbs and I have lost 41. The mental part is difficult. I was prepared for the physical but not the mental aspect. I didn't realize how much I rely on food for comfort. I haven't found anything to replace that yet. I still feel like something is missing some days. That causes me some anxiety. Also, I have difficulty getting some foods down. However, I am still happy I made this decision. I am now off blood pressure medicine. I am on my to a healthier me. I have 77 more lbs to go. I can't wait to reach my goal. Just giving am honest answer.

[reveric15 1]

My wife and I both have had surgery now, but we did it seven months apart. We are very pleased with our decision.