who supports right to choose

[gadgetlady 4]

Hi, okay, my daughter's school sent letters out to the parents to see if it was okay for our 5th graders to watch the puberty video. I had heard from other parents last year that the video was too explicit for 5th graders. I think the school did right, because if my daughter is going to be taught about puberty, I would rather do it. I can tell her and explain it to her a little better than a video. I think it is up to the parents to decide what their children are ready for. Wanted to add that every child is an individual, and what works for one, does not always work for the other.

:crying: Well said, and well done of the school to notify you. I have heard too many stories where the schools act first and ask permission later. There have literally been condom discussions in kindergarten, which the parents found out about later.

[gadgetlady 4]

No, not really...I lost the baby this morning...it's my first time miscarrying. I'm on bedrest for the rest of the day and night, but they made my husband go to work when I got back from the ER...It's been a rough morning.

:crying::sad: I'm so sorry for your loss. Take time to grieve -- get off this thread! -- you don't need it right now. I will be praying for you.

[gadgetlady 4]

Thank you so much. I really do appreciate it. I go to see the OB on Friday and will be able to discuss how long we need to wait and what we can do...I feel at fault even though I know I haven't done anything wrong...I guess it's just wanting to blame someone...something. It's hard to be so far away from my friends and family...My mom wanted to fly up here, but I told her know...I think it will be best if My husband and I deal with this together...to give us time to mourn just the two of us...and our son :crying:

Sorry - reading one post at a time. I should have consolidated. Do NOT blame yourself! You've suffered a loss, a death in your family, but it is not your fault. Treasure the love that you have with your husband and your son; it is precious and will help you get through this. I know it's painful, and I'm sorry you are having to go through it, especially without people close to you being nearby :-(

[BJean 16]

Rodriquez, sometimes it is good therapy to post on forums. Do what makes you feel best. It just might be a worthwhile diversion. Especially if you feel that you have understand friends here.

[rodriguezequal 3]

Thank you...It felt like I was being kicked when I was already down for the count. We're going to visit my family for memorial day weekend...it's when we were going to tell them we were pregnant...my mom is taking this almost as hard as I am

[BJean 16]

you're so funny gadget. ok so no, in that particular instance maybe you didn't. Do I have to go find them all to prove it to you? I'm pretty sure you would rather that I not do that.

[rodriguezequal 3]

...life does go on...

[gadgetlady 4]

Thank you...It felt like I was being kicked when I was already down for the count. We're going to visit my family for memorial day weekend...it's when we were going to tell them we were pregnant...my mom is taking this almost as hard as I am

It might not be a bad idea to seek solace with mothers who have been through this, to see what helped them through. Healing will come in time for everyone involved, but the loss of a child is one of the hardest things in life to bear.

[BJean 16]

I'll bet that more than anything your mom wishes she had her arms around you and you could lay your head on her shoulder and cry together. There's something about a mother and her daughter; mom's empathize and want to protect their daughters when it comes to something this important and this physical. It's frustrating that there's not a darned thing that we can do to change what happened to our daughters.

I am glad that you're getting to go be with them soon. Maybe that will be about the right time for you to be ready to talk about it with them.

My daughter has gone through so many tests to find out what went wrong. She lost her baby, Jake, when she was nearly ready to go into labor. The next one that she lost was when she was about 3.5 months along. They believe now that she has some kind of deficiency in being able to metabolize folic acid. Even that was not proven without a doubt. It is so freaking frustrating to not know when something like this happens. If we had all the answers (knowledge) it would be easier to understand and then process.

You are such a beautiful and loving mother. It would be great if at some point in time you are able to conceive and carry another child. I will tell you though, that my daughter has become very happy with her one little girl and she is satisfied that she has a perfect family, the one that she was meant to have.

I wish that kind of peace for you, whatever happens in the future.

[gadgetlady 4]

you're so funny gadget. ok so no, in that particular instance maybe you didn't. Do I have to go find them all to prove it to you? I'm pretty sure you would rather that I not do that.

Knock yourself out.

[rodriguezequal 3]

:crying: Thank you. I know by the time I told my mom she was already trying to find a flight. She hates being so far away. We have always been such a close family. I am confident that we will have another baby...even if we adopt We always wanted a big loving family :w00t:

[BJean 16]

Then I have faith that you will make it happen!

[BJean 16]

gadget: "Knock yourself out."

There have been times when you only used part of what I said to make it look like I said it differently. You did it more than once with the same quote.

All of the following posts have contained words that were incorrect or designed to characterize my post in a way that suits you and it wasn't fair.

3440 horrible evil bush - as if that is something I said.

3448 you never responded to the question about your professionally presented, comprehensive sex ed classes.

3442 didn't play fair

3435 quoted me out of context, obviously intentionally to make your point

3470 more of the same

You do it all the time to anyone who doesn't share your views. You exaggerate to make your points. You characterize people's posts to make them sound much worse than they are. You just don't play very fair most of the time. If you're feeling benevolent, you can be very kind. If the posts are going your way, you are a very nice person.

I don't know why you have to drag things down to that level, but after such a long time of sharing this thread with you, and other threads, I guess I just got a little sick of it. Especially when we were talking about trying to come up with positive ideas about sex education in public schools that might really make a difference and you post some gawd-awful crap that has no relevance but that makes sex ed look bad.

But I'll get over it. I have before and so have you.

[Carrie_C 9]

I have realized that the ignore button is so nice....

On another topic, rodriguezequal, I am very sorry for your loss.

[rodriguezequal 3]

Yeah, but then you miss out on all the fun...if I ever need to I just use the ignore button in my brain lol... and thank you