Feeling hurt and empty

[phx2sxv 16]

My mother in law had a fit when we told her I was having WLS in Dallas. And now all she says is I'm too skinny and need to not lose anymore weight. She points out that I don't eat much at family dinners I. Front of everyone. And I too have lost friends over losing weight. One of my closest friends before surgery won't even speak to me in public now. I understand how you are feeling because I'm feeling sad too. It's frustrating. My home life with my husband and kids has never been better. My health has never been better. I'm just heart broken at how the public and some family have treated me.

Edited April 19, 2015 by phx2sxv

[kyrickchick64 468]

Lots of people like having heavy friends cause it makes them seem thinner. Then when that friend loses weight they start hating cause they have to look at themselves. I always had more guy friends than girl because girls are taught to be so trashy to each other. I've have 1 best friend for 30+ yrs abd and couple others that are good ones but other than family not really cause of that catty crap. FIND new friends

[phx2sxv 16]

I don't do catty. I don't like mistreating others for their shape size or color. So it just shocks and hurts me for people to be that way with me. Thank you for your support. I needed some encouragement today. ????

[Aube 42]

Wolfmom71, this is about you not them you did this for yourself. You wanted to feel better look better get in better health nevermind the looks the comments or anything else . They hating on u, SO WHAT!!! enjoy your new look enjoy your new way of feeling enjoy getting in good health. This is ur time. I wish u the best. I'm 7 mths out, 88 lbs down and loving the journey. Smaller clothes, bring able to exercise and the wonderful compliments. Love it. It's your season!!!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

And for the newbs lurking on this thread ...

... once again, this is why I didn't tell anyone (other than hubby and 2 girlfriends who live 1,000 miles away) about my WLS. I've lost and gained weight often enough in my lifetime that clients, colleagues, friends, family members and acquaintances all just think I've gone on another diet.

The only thing different this time is that I won't regain the weight.

No strange comments. Just nice ones.

And to the OP ... honey, you really do need to put your foot down. The kind of crap you're getting is not OK.

[Miss Mac 6,262]

There is a theme here, dear bariatric sister: Don't give away your power! Good for you that you decided to take control of your health. Bariatric surgery exposes the dynamics of your relationships, and that is not a bad thing. For once in your life, you get to know how the people in your life really feel about you. That is a gift. Speak up for yourself.

As you continue to lose weight, you will gain confidence. As you gain confidence, it becomes easier to be bold with the people who are bringing you down. It is ok to get mad when someone is mistreating you. Maybe one good theatrical tantrum and walk-away will be fun - just this once.

Congratulations for your success so far. You have come to the right place for support. Hopefully you will be able to recruit new friends who understand your weight loss journey.

[wolfmom71 6]

Thank you that really helps