I'm not RIGHT, you're not WRONG, WE ARE DIFFERENT.

[lisacaron 5,075]

@@LipstickLady You know what?!!!!!!!!

I just live my life, my way. (Do you hear Frank Sinatra singing?).

I might be a WLS patient, a Mother, a Wife, a Daughter, a Woman, a Thinker, a Breather and million other adjectives.....but most of all I am ME!!!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@@LipstickLady You know what?!!!!!!!!

I just live my life, my way. (Do you hear Frank Sinatra singing?).

I might be a WLS patient, a Mother, a Wife, a Daughter, a Woman, a Thinker, a Breather and million other adjectives.....but most of all I am ME!!!!

But...but... You're wrong!!

[Bandista 7,466]

Love this thread! "I'll do Me, you do you." Yup! As for rules, I am finally free from that. Years of restricting myself, outlawing foods, etc. got me nowhere -- just fatter. Hurray for WLS, whatever kind and however you do it.

[lisacaron 5,075]

But...but... You're wrong!!

Yes!!!! I am!!!

[Elode 8,093]

@LipstickLady. Lol!!

Edited January 23, 2015 by Elode

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@LipstickLady. Lol!!

I love that so much I'm putting it on everything.

[Julie norton 2,850]

Great thread

Lipstick lady you have sparked a great flame.lots of ages and opinions and attitudes on these boards but you put it right out there. I enjoy reading your posts. And firey responses. It's fun to see how people cope with out their food. It's a new world for some

[rara71 6]

Love this thread!! LOLl!

[rara71 6]

Love this!

[harley_quinn25 80]

@@JamieLogical I am with you on that! I'm a chocolate eater and although it's not everyday I still couldn't imagine my life without it Lolz.

[Folly 308]

@@LipstickLady

When I was a very young woman I was swept away by a sort of intensity toward religion that made me not only irritating but very sure I knew what was good for everyone. It took a very nice person who I was trying to debate and "prove"wrong telling me, "We each have to hear God personally" to get my attention.

As time went on that statement worked its way into my understanding and conceptually it sort of went past deity or religion straight to the point. Our personal journey or truth or whatever isn't and shouldn't be subject the the critical opinions of others, nor should we inflict ours on them. I have to give you a pat on the back for the reminder and for putting it out there so eloquently.

Peace and Comfort

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Thank you. You are very kind @@Folly .

[aclinton16 32]

It amazes me that so many get their panties in a wad when they post their opinion on a public discussion board and someone else disagrees or posts a counter opinion.

Seriously! It's OK. In most cases, that counter opinion is just that -- opinion. While I do take issue with those who take themselves very seriously and post their opinion as fact, I am happy to say they are few and far between.

We, for the most part, have different surgeons, different NUTs, different metabolisms, different builds, different backgrounds, different thought processes, different psychosis... (JOKING! Kind of.)

There are very few doctors or therapists here. There are NO experts on YOU here, with the exception of yourself. No one is qualified to give you *absolute do or die* advice. No one is in a position to tell you that you are !!!WRONG!!! or that everyone else is.

Relax. Breathe. Discuss. Share. Vent. Listen. Learn.

We all have our hot buttons, we are human. We all have topics we are passionate about. Debate is fun! It's healthy. It's how we learn and grow. It's a positive form of interaction until someone takes it personally. (I'm guilty at times -- I know it!) As long as it's respectful, there is no name calling involved, and there are no personal attacks, there is nothing wrong with it.

I'll tell you a few things about me that are "wrong" and I don't give a rat's patoot if you want to tell me so:

I drink soda. GASP! Even worse, I drink it through a straw! I would never tell anyone else to do the same. That's between you and your doctor.

I graze all day. My sleeve is small, my restriction is fierce. I graze to keep myself from getting too hungry, eating too fast and then vomiting it all back up.

I eat while I work, when I drive, when I watch TV. I find that when I do this, I get distracted and I eat slower. Weird, I know.

I weigh myself 2-4 times a day. First thing in the morning (usually fully dressed in my PJs as I get up at a ridiculously early time of day to get my kids out of the door.) I weigh myself buck naked after kissing them goodbye when it's time to get myself dressed. I weigh myself before and after a poo (giggle) because I have a middle school boy sense of humor. I weigh myself at night, again buck nekky, just before I get in the shower. I call it my step aerobics. It works for me. I don't get frustrated or upset. I never have, even at my fattest.

I eat real chocolate every day. Just a few Hershey Kisses or a Dove Promise (dark!). It quiets the sweet tooth I didn't have pre-op and keeps me from thinking about sweets all day. It's better to feed the beast a nibble and shut it up. FOR ME.

I eat full fat everything except the things I don't.

I am choosing not to be a WLS advocate. I don't care HOW people think I am losing weight, I don't care who supports me. I don't tell my business to everyone and it's not up to me to save the world from obesity one fatty at a time. I'm not embarrassed, ashamed or a liar.

Your personal experience, your advice from your NUT/surgeon/NP may differ completely. You may be of the opinion that I will be the size of a small whale in 5 year's time. You may think that I am failing myself and my surgery. You may think I am a hypocrite. It's OK.

You do you, I'll do me. We can talk and share and be opinionated together, even when our opinions don't match.

This is a public DISCUSSION board. It's ok to discuss, it's ok to be opinionated. Just expect the same in return.

OMG! Didn't you just hit the nail on the head. I seriously had someone go off on me for stating my opinions and had to let her know hold on sweetie, we are all in this together. Like you said not right nor wrong. It simply is what it is, now let's discuss.... Lol some folk..smh

[skinnygirlwithin 693]

OMG THIS IS AWESOME! I love reading your posts!!!

[sophie'sChoice 269]

Lipstick Lady I always look forward to your posts and comments however you said something in which I am in total disagreement. Hershey kisses, in my opinion, are NOT real chocolate. Now Dove dark is most certainly real chocolate! And I often join you in the evening by indulging.....there is nothing better! :-)