Support...Struggling to be supportive!

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honey take it from an old married woman of 39 years. This guy needs to grow up. You should not be paying all the bills, this should be a joint effort. The weight loss thing is a minor problem. You cannot be responsible for his success or failure with his weight. The more you nag him about going to the gym and eating right the more resistant he will become. He is not ready to be responsible for himself in many ways. My ex husband was the same guy, I tried to 6 years to help him grow up but finally gave up. I re-married the most wonderful man in the world who helped me raise my daughter and supported me in everything I did 110%. He and I discussed the weight loss surgery and he said if it will be healthier for you I want you to have it. Since then he never mentions what I eat or what I do. It goes both ways, he was a smoker for many years although he had cancer and heart disease he refused to quit, no amount of my asking him to made a difference. He finally had a Dr. who prescribed Chantix and he quit but it had nothing to do with my nagging. You take care of your health first and foremost because if he doesn't love you enough to step up and be a man now he never will. You deserve way better. Best of Luck Sweetie.