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Soooo some of you that have read my other posts knoe I've had a lot of different things going on this past year especially emotionally. This weekend my husband and I had an entire weekend for us alone! It started out really bad. He kept suggesting all these places he wanted to go and things he wanted to do like bowling, movies,etc. I really do love doing those things, but my weight always gets in the way. I don't like the looks and stares from people who glare at me as though I was a walking zombie. I don't fit in the theatre chairs comfortably anymore and I finally snapped this weekend. I finally had to break down and tell him why I kept saying no to these places. After my 20 minute crying spree and rant his eyes were the size of 1/2 dollars! He was so mad and me for holding and tell thay in and never talking to him about it! Then he just looked at me and said I get so much now that I didn't realize before. He is totally okay with this surgery and has now become my personal cheerleader! Today I feel blessed ????

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That's awesome!! God will keep blessing you! Big hugs sent to you both. I know that had to be difficult.

One step closer to what you want to do. ????

thank you so much!! It was the most liberating thing I think I have ever done. It was like carrying around a huge secret and burden. I feel so so much better now!!!

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I'm so happy for you and I love your hubby. When I told my ex I wanted this surgery he told me he would leave me if I did it. Granted I wasn't that obese (yet) at 250 pounds but I was already suffering never wanting to join in on life. So I totally get we're you are coming from. You have made a great decision and you won't regret it at all.

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By the way I looked up your insurance requirements. You don't have a 6 month diet requirement. You only need to show you have tried weight loss programs like weight watchers or jenny Craig, you may need to send in proof of that. Also you will need to have your surgery at a VA hospital.

http://obesitycoverage.com/tricare-weight-loss-surgery-requirements/

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See I've honestly never been able to afford those programs :/ we have 4 kids we take care of and that extra cash just doesn't exist for us.????

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I'm so happy for you and I love your hubby. When I told my ex I wanted this surgery he told me he would leave me if I did it. Granted I wasn't that obese (yet) at 250 pounds but I was already suffering never wanting to join in on life. So I totally get we're you are coming from. You have made a great decision and you won't regret it at all.

And thank u bellabloom!!!!! I feel very lucky for sure. I honestly wish I would have just told him straight up a long time ago my issues I have. Honestly this sight has helped me open up to him. Seeing that you aren't alone in a struggle is massive!!!

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Vanderbilt is okayed by tricare and so is my doc. That much I did find out for sure lol

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Communication is key with your partner. I'm really happy he's in your corner. :-)

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