Should I send the hubs home, or have him stay and wait?

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

My hubs is a worry wart. I do believe some friends from work will be there to wait for me to go the recovery room, for support. So, he'll have people there who know me that he can chat with. But, last time I had surgery, when I came out of the anesthesia, I was a raging b*tch. I don't want to be that way toward him. It's bad enough that he is "having" to support my decision to do this without yelling at him right out of recovery. I think this happens because of the estrogen thing. You see.....I don't make estrogen. Had all that stuff removed 30 years ago, so I wear a patch. From what I understand, I have to not wear my ""sanity patch" for 2 weeks prior to surgery and 2 weeks afterward, to avoid blood clots. So I will go through menopause, which I have never had to do in my life so far. (I'm 52) What do you think. Call him when I'm sane? Or just hope for the best, and make him stay? He'll be a worrywart no matter what.

[sunflowerchild 146]

Why don't you consider asking him what he wants to do?

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

Well...that thought had crossed my mind too. lol

[changingmylife4ver 17]

What jumps out to me, is this statement

"It's bad enough that he is "having" to support my decision"

He should support your decision willingly. Does he not want you to have the surgery? Just a question that came to my mind.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

He didn't at first. He does now. In fact, he is telling people now, and helping me pick up stuff I'm going to need. He recently retired, so he is practicing bariatric recipes. It's super cute. I didn't word it right. So, yes he does now.....whole hardheartedly.

[BloomingLotus 179]

Do you know for sure that you'll need to stop the patch? I was concerned about hormones as well. I am on continuous birth control for very bad endometriosis, and I have not had a period in 14 years. When I do, I'm bedridden the pain is so horrific.

I brought this up to my surgeon, who said that he doesn't have a problem with me staying on. Speak to your surgeon - you may be able to stay on, with extra precautions taken to avoid clots.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

GOSH! I sure hope I don't have to. I'll be sure to ask at my appointment. Thanks for the tip!!

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

Call him when I'm sane?

@@wannaBthinsoon

i'm 3 years PO

if i waited til I was sane

I still wouldn't be talking to my sweet hubby

can't let him off that easy

how did hubby react after your previous surgery??

did he understand your "anesthesia" situation???

when you yelled and acted like a bitchhh was he ok, understanding??

if the answer is yes, let him in, he cares about you

he is your sweetie, and probably wants to know 1rst hand how things are going??

if he didn't love your temporary "attitude" - keep him at a distance for awhile!!!

who knows, maybe you'll be fine after surgery

acting like a cutie that i know you are

glad he is being supportive

practicing recipes for you - that is great

sounds like he is a "winner"

good luck

speedy recovery

kathy

Edited February 13, 2015 by proudgrammy

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

Thanks Kathy! I love reading your posts. You are always so positive, and wise.