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After almost 1 year of doctors appt. Etc I was approved by insurance, my surgery day set for march 15, I don't feel ready. I'm scared, I can't take days off, I'm thinking I should try yet another diet. My husband really doesn't like the idea of surgery, neither my family. I have 2 young kids. And I'm scared to die or be miserable the rest if my life. So I'll call the Doctor in Monday to tell them I need more time to think about this. Little voice in my heart tell me to wait.

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You have to do what is right for you... If you change your mind later, I'm sure the surgery would still be available. Best of luck to you!

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Only you can know when you are ready. I pay you are not sumcombing to others pressures to our fro the surgery. Follow you heart and mind. Enjoy your journey regardless of how you do it. :D

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Thank you! It's my decision. It's more like a bad feeling about the surgery. I prayed a lot about this and I don't feel ready. I admire everyone for their courage and determination.

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Thank you! It's my decision. It's more like a bad feeling about the surgery. I prayed a lot about this and I don't feel ready. I admire everyone for their courage and determination.

Maybe postpone your date and give yourself more time to think and to prepare your family and line up since care. March 15th is actually two months away! I have a 4 year old and I was terrified of dying on the table! I'd never had anesthesia before but I'm 4 days out and every thing went perfectly. Just think about all the people ask over the world who have surgery in this country everyday.....And wake up... my child actually motivated to me to have the surgery. I wanted a chance to be a normal mom, to play, have fun and not be exhausted all the time....ultimately, it is up to you but with a support system in place, you could rock this!

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Thank you! It's my decision. It's more like a bad feeling about the surgery. I prayed a lot about this and I don't feel ready. I admire everyone for their courage and determination.

This surgery is not for everyone; I always wanted it and if everything goes well I'll have it 6 days from today. If I had your hesitation I would 've cancel it for good.

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Maybe postpone your date and give yourself more time to think and to prepare your family and line up since care. March 15th is actually two months away! I have a 4 year old and I was terrified of dying on the table! I'd never had anesthesia before but I'm 4 days out and every thing went perfectly. Just think about all the people ask over the world who have surgery in this country everyday.....And wake up... my child actually motivated to me to have the surgery. I wanted a chance to be a normal mom, to play, have fun and not be exhausted all the time....ultimately, it is up to you but with a support system in place, you could rock this!

I been thinking and I'll keep my appointment for now. I'll bring my husband to the preop appt in feb 28 and go for there. It's been all most a year waiting for approval. I need a positive attitude.

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Being nervous is completely normal. It's harder without the support. But you have to remember that it's your life. No one has to live in your body but you. No one in my family supported my surgery and my mother tirelessly fought up until the morning of the procedure. That was the first time in my life that I said to hell with everyone and put myself first. I'm sure that your husband will love the results. I'm not talking about cosmetically. I mean, you will be able to do more with your family and more importantly your attitude will completely change for the better. You will be happier. I would cautiously proceed. But I would proceed. You don't want to push it back and a year from now be full of regret. You're at the finish line girl!!! Go ahead and cross ????

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Being nervous is completely normal. It's harder without the support. But you have to remember that it's your life. No one has to live in your body but you. No one in my family supported my surgery and my mother tirelessly fought up until the morning of the procedure. That was the first time in my life that I said to hell with everyone and put myself first. I'm sure that your husband will love the results. I'm not talking about cosmetically. I mean, you will be able to do more with your family and more importantly your attitude will completely change for the better. You will be happier. I would cautiously proceed. But I would proceed. You don't want to push it back and a year from now be full of regret. You're at the finish line girl!!! Go ahead and cross ????

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@@foodfighter78, congratulations on your decision! I know how scary and strange it is. I'm just 5 weeks post-op and I'm already thrilled with the decision and how it's turning out for me.

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I too was afraid, I was a revision so riskier but honestly it was the easiest surgery I ever had. I am 8 months out and so glad I did it. Fear is normal. I decided the risk was worth it for a healthier life. I am only 3 pounds from a normal BMI. Good luck and many prayers!

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Omg foodfighter78, I was so happy to hear this I let out a little yelp! This a great place to come to get your mind right. Lots of encouragement and success! :-) :-) :-)

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My date is March 10, I will have my lap band removed as well. It is a big decision but I am going to focus on March 11. I was talked into the lap band which was not a good decision, so moving on to a better one. Hang in there.

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