Shea_Shea 39 Posted January 17, 2015 So for some reason my boyfriend isn't too thrilled about my going to the plastic surgeon. I've come so far and I have a consultation with the surgeon in February and he keeps telling me I don't need to do this. He is so supportive with everything else but for some reason he gets so upset with the Tummy Tuck. I'm doing it either way but how do I get him on board? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Susanjoyce392 66 Posted January 17, 2015 I want one in about a year. How long have you been at goal and what are his objections? Also wondering if he is overweight? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lisajacs 1 Posted January 17, 2015 (edited) I'm having the all the way around lower lift done on March 2. And the hubby tells me the same thing. I think he's worried about the surgery itself. But then he threw the getting a nice body comment in there and that I will want to leave him. But that's not why I'm doing it. I will be 9 years out in April and down 165 lbs I want this. I need this for me. Yah I'm nervous as can be but extremely excited also Edited January 17, 2015 by Lisajacs Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProjectMe 909 Posted January 17, 2015 My family is anti me getting another surgery (have had 14) and are anti me getting another degree (have 3). I don't blame them, they are worried for me and want me to be "there" mentally, emotionally & physically. I truly respect & understand where they are coming from so will do my best to tone and tighten through working out. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganChic 3,262 Posted January 17, 2015 My family was worried and thought I looked good like I was. I did it anyway and they were supportive, but my parents have forbidden any more surgery. I'm 52, lol. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JustWatchMe 7,117 Posted January 17, 2015 With all due respect, it's your body and your decision. He may never agree. His problem. Once he sees the happiness it brings you, maybe he will see it differently. Agree to disagree and move forward. Your life! Live it! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AvaFern 3,516 Posted January 17, 2015 I had an abdominoplasty, amongst other plastics procedures, and it is AWESOME. I have never had a flat stomach. Even when I was thin, I always had a little fat roll around my lower tummy. I can now wear whatever I want and never worry that my flab is showing. I have gained a huge amount of confidence and I think that if I had a boyfriend who I was with during the whole weight loss process and through plastic surgery, he may have begun to feel a little insecure. I would coddle him a bit and understand now that you're hot, he might not feel as awesome himself, but in the end it is your body and your decision and if he doesn't like it, well then too bad. Trust me, you will LOVE it, and your opinion is the only one that matters. Good luck! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CowgirlJane 14,260 Posted January 17, 2015 My boyfriend kept telling me I didn't need it. About a month before surgery he realized I was gonna do it so he stopped discouraging me and became supportive. After I recovered he decided it was definitely worth jt! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scamp 207 Posted January 17, 2015 My family were not against my surgery - My Mum was very worried about me. When we tried on my compression garment before my TT - My Mum was helping to 'tuck the skin in to it' and she really understood then that the skin needed to go. After all the Ops - She still tells me how worried she was but has seen how the fabulous results have made me feel so much better about myself and given me self confidence I never had before This decision is not about anyone else - They can be for or against but ultimately this is YOU - How you feel inside about yourself, and mentally - I am a whole new woman now! And I would do it all agian - ten times over to feel this much better about myself. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites