Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Privacy: How easy or difficult was it for you?



Recommended Posts

I, like many other bandsters like to keep my surgery private. Unfortunately, I work in a position that requires the wearing of a uniform. When anyone is injured, or for females who become pregnant, we are required to move to desk duty and wear civilian clothing. My surgery was done 12/31/14, which I took several days off for after informing my Supervisor (no way around it). When I came back, because of the healing process, I had to be placed on desk duty for the 4 week healing period. Of course the rumors fly because everyone assumes I am pregnant. No one will ask if I am even ok, except for the ones who come in on the following shifts. If they ask, I just tell them I am fine and leave it at that. But the other ones are (ask they have asked me) only concerned about how long I will be taking up the desk position(s).

Trying not to stress and let it affect my results, but people are drama.

On a side note, my husband wanted to indulge the rumor of our expecting (he works at my dept. as well). He's willing to accept the congrats!

Edited by bandedlarodgers

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Privacy... I never did tell anyone and still do not unless they can benefit by my story to make a positive move in theirs. It to me was sort of like getting augmentation only on a slow scale. No one really cares until you look differently! At that point I was able to say it's all about Portion Control and exercise. And it still is. Sorry since you are on light duty it may bring about questions. Best wishes on your journey!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I also wear a uniform and had time off.....I told people I had a minor surgery, .......no one asked what it was but I was ready with a ulcer, or some other excuse, gall bladder .....whatever ....my uniform is getting big on me now, but nobody has asked and when they do I will say I am watching what I eat

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I like your plan lol I may have to follow suit. An ulcer wouldn't be unbelievable either. I think they know they typically stress me out lol!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I also didn't tell people about my surgery. Some people can be so judgmental and I didn't want to hear it from them. When people at work asked why I was on restriction I just told them I hurt my back. I healed very quickly and was back to work in 3 days. Congrats on taking control of your life and best of luck to you

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had a hernia repair with my surgery. Everyone knows about the hernia. That is my story

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was on vacation when I was banded ......I returned the next a little sore but nothing noticeable. I decided against telling people cause I work with a bunch of hens lol.....I was also going to the gym before my surgery and my weight loss was very slow so it worked out ok.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Every other Sunday, I come into work to see a different shift work of people. Today I saw the group I hadn't seen since surgery/modified duty/plain clothes status. I walk in to see where my post is for the day and this girl yells in front of everyone "Are you on light duty?". Immediate reaction was to throw my hands up like isn't it obvious since I'm not wearing uniform? She's like (again in front of everyone) What happened? Are you ok? The only thing out of my mouth was I don't go around spreading my own news (business would have been a better term but I was confronted). Although it was nice to find someone who had asked about me and not how long I would be taking up a desk position, I didn't feel it right to make that announcement. Then I left the area.

Not how I saw that one going down! LOL.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Every other Sunday, I come into work to see a different shift work of people. Today I saw the group I hadn't seen since surgery/modified duty/plain clothes status. I walk in to see where my post is for the day and this girl yells in front of everyone "Are you on light duty?". Immediate reaction was to throw my hands up like isn't it obvious since I'm not wearing uniform? She's like (again in front of everyone) What happened? Are you ok? The only thing out of my mouth was I don't go around spreading my own news (business would have been a better term but I was confronted). Although it was nice to find someone who had asked about me and not how long I would be taking up a desk position, I didn't feel it right to make that announcement. Then I left the area.

Not how I saw that one going down! LOL.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×