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[Susan33 18]

I just had the upper thing done about a week ago. Doc said when he gets the results he will send it to insurance for acceptance. If or when they accept it that is when my gastric bypass surgery will be scheduled.

I am 5'5 at 270lbs and 33 years old. I am so excited to start my new life as I have been overweight since I was 15ish. My weight has only gotten worse as the years go by. Anyways....I'm excited for the procedure but nervous I will mess it up. I'm a full time single mom of 2 young kids(youngest with adhd and odd). I just wish their was people close to me in somewhat same position as I am just to have that support. I don't have that family support or any support for the most part.

I wish all of you luck and I will be there for whoever needs to chat or blow steam. So good luck and happy new year to everyone.

[James Marusek 5,244]

Generally scattered around the country there are bariatric surgery support groups that meet once per month. These meeting are free. They are a way for you to meet others that are undergoing this process. To voice your concerns and fears.

Many hospitals and surgeons that perform this type of surgery can detail where these meeting are held and when they meet.

[Susan33 18]

Thank you James.

[maggie0210 117]

Susan,

Sounds like you have your hands full. There is no family for support? I only had my sister, she was a lifesaver. She was my caregiver as I recovered. I hope you have a close friend or someone. Recovery really takes some help when you first come home. I was so tired and slept most of the time. I didn't get much Protein in so was compleatly drained. But now I can't imagine not having done this. You will not mess this up because you are ready for change! And if you need some help I can give just message me. More than happy to help. Remember, you are strong and deserve this new way of life.

[Susan33 18]

Maggie thanks for the message. No I have no family support. I'm basically the black sheep out of the family. Lol I had my last son and when I got out of the hospital (same day) I went grocery shopping and did what I had to do as a single mom with a newborn son and 2yr old daughter. Had tubes tied few yrs back and when I was released and got back home I went to the store and did the same thing. Reason for me telling all this is I have been through alot in life most I can't say here. I am a mother first then e everything else. I know recovery will be hard, probably harder then I can imagine but I know I can make it. I have no choice other then to make it. I live for my kids, they are why I'm doing this.

[Gingerisgreat 56]

Hi Susan33, Not sure if I am anywhere near you however a lot of our stats seem to be in the same neighborhoods. I am also 33, I am 5'6 and my HW was 288, I believe date of surgery it was 272. I was a single mother to my daughter for the first 6 years of her life before I met my now husband. Single parenting is very difficult but you learn to just DO what needs to be done and not waste any of your precious time complaining about what needs done, and THAT is how things get done!!!! I try explaining this to my husband and he just doesn't get it.....I still sometimes just do what I want done because I wait for no one.....and that is because I had to for so many years. I am CONFIDENT that you will conquer this surgery!!! I had my RNY in November, I actually left the hospital on Thanksgiving night. Who is keeping your children while you are in the hospital?? You will be very tired when you are released home and you will not be able to lift more than 10 pounds, not sure how long your surgeon will leave you on lifting restrictions. I am here if you need anyone to talk to, Good Luck!!!

[Susan33 18]

Thanks and I agree. I gave birth to my son and was released the same day with him. Within a few hrs of being home I walked to grocery store and got a few things for my 2yr old daughter and my dad(rip) who had advanced Parkinsons. I spent my day as though it was like every other day..lol just with an extra baby. Then a few yrs ago I had my tubes tied and again was released same day. I did the same thing as before spent my day like every other day....being a mom. I am not complaining at all but just explaining my situation so apologize if you thought I was complaining. I am getting the surgery not for me but for my kids. I love them. They are my life. Just want to be more active with them and be in better health so I can take care of them for as long as needed.

[Susan33 18]

Oh yeah and Ginger thanks for the compliment/message. This is the beginning of a new life for me and just want to be as ready as I can be. I wish you and your family the best in the present and the future.