AlessandraMarie 0 Posted January 6, 2015 Must be nice.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AlessandraMarie 0 Posted January 6, 2015 I don't even know if that will qualify me my bmi is 41 and the only health issue I have is anxiety.. And on top of that my Dr won't sign the papers..it's like she wants me to lol my self or be miserable Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VGB 130 Posted January 6, 2015 I found a doctor out of network! As Maya Angelou said "Nothing will work unless you do". I have been on this journey for years! I had to get up and do something! It will work out! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AlessandraMarie 0 Posted January 6, 2015 I've been doing something I got tho gym 5days a week for 1hour 30 minute run and then 30 minutes of working out with like 10lbs weights.. I eat healthy too!! Junk food makes me sick I never go out to eat I always stay home and cook healthy meals and it still doesn't work.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AlessandraMarie 0 Posted January 6, 2015 So that saying that Maya says doesn't work for me Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VGB 130 Posted January 6, 2015 Ok! Just trying to give some encouragement! I pray things work out for you! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondiebabs 214 Posted January 6, 2015 @@AlessandraMarie it sounds like maybe, if you do not already, you should talk to a psychologist, I do not say that viciously, I see one weekly myself. Everyone here is supportive of your journey. Perhaps you can start your own thread with your specific issues and needs, state what area you are living in, and others will see your post and be able to give you more feedback specific to you and help you out, everyone who reads the original post of this thread isn't necessarily going to go through and read the entire thread and respond to you. You should give it a try, I know people here have been helpful to me when I've asked questions in my own posts. =) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AlessandraMarie 0 Posted January 6, 2015 I'm not crazy ok?! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Inner Surfer Girl 12,015 Posted January 6, 2015 I'm not crazy ok?! I have to jump in here. Seeing a psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor or other mental health professional doesn't mean you are crazy. A recommendation doesn't mean someone thinks you are crazy. It just means that there are trained professionals who can help you navigate many of the issues you have brought up. We all can benefit from outside help at one time or another. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blondiebabs 214 Posted January 6, 2015 @@AlessandraMarie I'm not crazy either, however like @@Inner Surfer Girl said, they can be very helpful. I've found seeing one myself more helpful than I could have ever imagined. When you deal with people bombarding you with negativity and making fun of you and other things you mentioned, it is nice to have a non-judgmental environment and someone who you can use as a bouncing board to talk about those things with and how it makes you feel, as well as your frustrations with trying so hard and not losing weight. I know those frustrations well myself. A psychologist is just talk therapy, they do not try to medicate you and label you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JWheel1989 21 Posted January 6, 2015 In the UK I don't think you can get gastric surgery without seeing a psychologist at least once, they do it so they can try figure out why you are overweight in the first place and how to stop negative behaviour. Speaking to one doesn't mean your crazy it is literally just a person to air out concerns with and to try and determine why you do the things you don't like, it doesn't mean you are crazy at all. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProudGrammy 8,322 Posted January 8, 2015 (edited) clip of myself on a video at church - could not believe that HUGE lady was me!!!! I cried all day - can NOT believe I let it get this out of hand! @@VGB my case is "similar but different " like many of us, i always hid from the camera i didn't have any pictures of the "HUGE" me somehow i found an old picture of myself for my before pic i never saved any of my old clothes that got bigger i i got smaller so i had nothing to compare my new self - to the awful overweight person of the past so.............after i reached goal, down 105 lbs i went to kohl's where i always bought my elastic waisted 2X plus size jeans i put them on in the fitting room i stared at myself for a long time just kept staring for 10 minutes, 15, seemed like forever. i just stared, didn't cry - just stared in disbelief shock i finally took them off and spent $24.95 or whatever to have those jeans for posterity once again i just sat in the car now i did start to cry because i realized what i looked like to others snapped out of it, drove home and promptly hung up the jeans in the back of my closet they will always stay there as my past i know how great i feel, and look too its just sad to "see" how i used to look can't go back - whats done is done i am enjoying, loving each and every day my health and happiness go hand in hand life is wonderful kathy Edited January 8, 2015 by proudgrammy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProudGrammy 8,322 Posted January 8, 2015 (edited) surgery February 9th! @@VGB sorry about the pic situation - feeling sad depressed not good glad you are having surgery next month you are on the road to health and happiness having surgery will help/improve/get rid of entirely certain health issues ie high blood pressure, diabetes i'm sure you realize that WLS is not a magic pill you with the sleeve and the sleeve will work with/for you the sleeve is here to "assist you" in losing your weight just cuz i like to see myself write/talk!!! i'm gonna remind you of a few of those VERY important rules you must follow for the rest of your life drink 64 oz of Water a day stop drinking about 30 minutes before you eat never drink while you are eating after eating don't drink for 45-60 minutes chew your food very thoroughly into little pieces eat very slowly measure your food keeping track of all the food you eat is very helpful use something like MFP (my fitness pal) it helps you track your intake small portions eat Protein first carb intake low these are just a few things you need to know and do i'm sure your surgeon/NUT (nutritionist ) can advice you further ask all your questions here and note the good responses, but at the end of the day ALWAYS only listen to your surgeon or nutritionist (or me ) follow their rules/"suggestions" i can see you are a smart cookie so you probably knew all the above, oh well in the next month, why not try and do some of the above rules water especially can be a "tough" one practice not drinking while you eat wait up to an hour after you eat before you drink drink 64 oz or more of water practicing/preparing yourself for surgery is a good thing keep coming back to the boards you'll learn a lot of info hear good questions and answers explore the boards use the search button in top right hand corner don't be afraid to ask your questions we don't bite (usually ) good luck bud kathy Edited January 8, 2015 by proudgrammy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BitterSweet* 835 Posted January 8, 2015 Wow, just wow...... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProudGrammy 8,322 Posted January 8, 2015 Wow, just wow...... @@BitterSweet* you talking to me bud?? yep the pants story was quite a downer did you notice??? no smileys in that post!!! i'm back to "normal" with my smileys