female only BMI, attention from men, etc

[LBS15 18]

Hi! I'm going 1/20 for my pre screening appointment. I'm very excited to do this. I've been fighting this weight issue since I was 10. My BMI is right at 35 but I'm diabetic, fatty liver, high cholesterol, snoring/apnea so I'm covered by insurance but I've been told to make sure that my weight is still at least 240 by 1/20. I have not been eating well but am worried about the weighing in. Do they do it naked? I'm worried I won't be able to gain. When I try to lose I can't and I can't gain!

Also, the biggest worry I have about this surgery (besides leaks) is unwanted attention after weight loss. I have issues with compliments and not sure how to mentally deal with that. I'm very happy with my marriage and that is not the issue.

And is there anything else I need to think about?

[Elode 8,093]

@@LBS15 Welcome, No they do not weigh you naked. Do whatever you have to do to make that 240! Now, as far as the unwanted attention sorry to say but too bad! Guys are gonna be guys so if they gawk at you then oh well! If your married and happy then who cares! As long as they aren't trying to touch you. If they approach you, you tell them your married (the same answer no matter what weight you are, that doesn't change unless you want it to) If someone compliments you a simple thank you is sufficient . It's going to be ok! Trust me there is WAY more issues to think about when it comes to this surgery. Good luck!

Edited January 4, 2015 by Elode

[LBS15 18]

Thanks! What are the other issues I should think about?

My goal is to be off diabetic medication. My dad died from diabetes complications. I'm just looking at weight loss as a benefit.

[Elode 8,093]

@@LBS15 When I was at your stage I was just researching everything I could, I read, I watched YouTube videos, I was on here...it's hard to give you examples of issues because you haven't had the surgery so I don't know what issues you may have. If you want maybe you should look up issues related to this surgery on Google. Most of this entire process is a "only time will tell" the best thing you can do is just get as much info on the pre and post of the surgery and what it entails. Just remember the whole start to finish process varies with everyone and every thing so you can take away what you wish from the info but it may not all pertain to you. Getting off meds is a excellent goal!

[SuperDave 1,115]

Don't worry, men don't show me any any more attention than before!

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

They weight you just like you get weighed at any other doctor's appointment. Nurse brings you back, checks your BP and then has you step on the scale.

As for unwanted attention, I've never heard of people suddenly being accosted due to weight loss. Some people may feel more confident and outgoing but WLS isn't turning frogs into princes.

More importantly you need to relearn how to eat and drink. When you go for your prescreening take notes regarding that. It will make you more likely to be successful post op

[Elode 8,093]

@@BLERDgirl Umm I don't know what your talking about I intend on applying for Mrs America this year!!! Lol!!

[Elode 8,093]

@@SuperDave Hey are you aware that you are in the ladies powder room!! Tag your it!!! Public apology shaming for you!! Now get to typing!!

[Elode 8,093]

@@SuperDave And look at that as soon as you make yours my "public shaming" post will slide right off the "trending topics" how convenient!!

[SuperDave 1,115]

@@SuperDave Hey are you aware that you are in the ladies powder room!! Tag your it!!! Public apology shaming for you!! Now get to typing!!

Crap! I didn't even notice! Please continue powdering your noses, or whatever goes on in here! ::Slowly backing out of room::

[LBS15 18]

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I've lost a lot of weight before and men hit on me or gave me looks and wasn't use to that. And have to prepare for that.

I've been reading everything.

My biggest issue eating is social situations. I'm not normally an over eater. But when I go out I drink, eat dinner, dessert. That will be my biggest challenge.

[Elode 8,093]

@@SuperDave Lol you know I don't care! But see how dang easy it is to do!! They really need to fix that!

[Elode 8,093]

@@LBS15 Well in the beginning you won't be able to do all that.

[Elode 8,093]

@@LBS15 Wait, let me clarify that, you won't be "allowed" to drink alcohol for some time (your dr will give you a time frame) depending on your restriction you may only be able to eat a few bits of different things. You can still go out it will just be more about socializing than eating.

[Elode 8,093]

It's really nice actually!