Cancelled Surgery

[ojibway 203]

9 days into my pre-op, (14days required) I cancelled my surgery today, I found out this weekend my support system was NOT supporting my decision to have surgery wholeheartedly. I will try to lose the weight on my own again. wish me luck! Thanks for all the support on BariatricPal. Goodbye.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

I wish you all the best.

[ojibway 203]

Thanks, I am a little heartbroken. but Motivated to lose

I wish you all the best.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

Bye! Best of luck to you. I hope you win this battle on your own. with or without the support you need. Be your own advocate. Sherrie.

[hco7416 25]

@@ojibway,

My surgery is/was scheduled for January 19th. I'm calling Dr.'s today to cancel/post-pone. I discovered this website a week or two ago. Very motivational in the beginning but read a few posts last week that scared me half to death. I too am going to try and do it again on my own first. I think I may actually schedule a few follow-up visits wtih the psychologist I had to see prior to insurance approval. Yes you need to do it for you, but all along my surgeon's office stressed the importane of a support person. You have to have support to be successful in my opinion. Best of luck to you and your journey!

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

cancelled surgery

@@ojibway

congrats on losing 30 lbs

many people do get cold feet a few weeks before surgery

you are not alone

some do cancel/post-pone surgery

some people end up rescheduling and are happy they had the surgery

support or no support, you must feel ready/confident to go ahead with surgery

it can be harder not having anyone at "your back"

but people are still able to have surgery and continue on their own

remember the door is always open to come back and try again with surgery

we will be here today, tomorrow and...................

good luck

kathy

happy new years

Edited December 29, 2014 by proudgrammy

[Elode 8,093]

Good luck!

[Jill Pill 61]

This is not a decision to enter into lightly it has taken me 3 or 4 years to make this decision. It shocks me that people just jump in and have this w bmi as little as 33. I didnt support my mom when she had a duodenum switch because she isnt compliant w anything ever. She went ahead and she went from close to 400 lbs to 140. She is happy thats all that matters point is if you wsnt it need it do it !

[Sleeve101 72]

Good call to postpone. You need to be totally prepared. I wasn't and I do regret it. I would have never done it. Even with all the research in the world, you never know what it's going to be like for you...and for me it's been difficult. I'm 6 weeks post op and more depressed now, than I was about being fat. I wish I could have my pre-op life back. I made a huge mistake.

[SouthernBelle69 20]

@@Sleeve101 why do you regret your surgery?

Good call to postpone. You need to be totally prepared. I wasn't and I do regret it. I would have never done it. Even with all the research in the world, you never know what it's going to be like for you...and for me it's been difficult. I'm 6 weeks post op and more depressed now, than I was about being fat. I wish I could have my pre-op life back. I made a huge mistake.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Sleeve101, I just read all your posts and learned:

* Pre-op, you were anemic (low red blood cell count), and your Mexican surgeon almost didn't do your surgery, but relented and did it anyway.

* You may not be measuring or tracking your food (although not sure about that).

* You have had a tough time emotionally post-op, but haven't yet sought medical or counseling support for your distress.

* You have federal BCBS insurance, which has pretty good insurance coverage.

I strongly encourage you to find a counselor or therapist who's familiar with bariatric patients' issues and journeys who will support you through this tough time you're having. As you know you can't get your original stomach back. So it's time to learn how you can move forward with this new lifestyle. Many, many people have done very well post-op. You can, too. You don't have to remain miserable. It's your choice.

[Sleeve101 72]

Because I don't think I fully understood the consequences. I had a hard recovery and I can't get used to the pain that comes from just trying to eat anything other than shakes or liquids. I'm just afraid of living this way the rest of my life....I know it has to get better, but right now I just don't see the light. I am losing weight - I've lost 30 pounds since my surgery on Nov 20th, but I d take it back if I could. I think this has just gotten me really depressed, which is another thing I wasn't expecting. :-(

I'll be going to a therapist next week, nutritionist and doctor follow ups as well.

I just can't make myself be happy about this now. I have so much regret I cry a lot.

Please pray for me, I'm really struggling emotionally ans physically. :-(

[Sleeve101 72]

Thank you VSGann2014! I appreciate your advice. I will do that, because I know I can't change what is done. I need to learn to live with the new lifestyle required. Thank you for your suggestions!

I know it has to get better...I just need to get help.

[Miss Mac 6,262]

As always with this forum, you are going to experience that opinions and tact will vary, especially when a post is not all sunshine and roses. I am sad that your weight loss has become about someone else and not about your own health, happiness, and longevity. Will this person support you in other attempts? Will they go walking with you and help you pick and cook healthy foods? Or will they sabotague your efforts and bring home Krispy Creme Donuts?

I do hope that even if they don't support your decision for surgery, at least they will still have your best interest at heart and support you with encouragement and assistance.

You will find all kinds of people on this site. There are folks like me who got sleeved and had no complications and no hair loss. There are others who have had complications or lost a lot of hair. There are those who have been at death's door several times. I don't regret my surgery at all. Others wish they had never heard of it.

Since you are putting surgery on the back burner, I would like to make a couple of suggestions. One is that you come visit the forum often. You will still find good advice and support here, no matter what method you use to get healthy.

The other is to at least pick up on the basics of what our surgeons present to us for success:

Eat lean Protein and plenty of it.

Eat some non-starchy veggies daily.

Eat fresh fruit (apple, not apple pie), but not a lot.

Drink Water until your eyeballs float.

Don't become part of the couch.

I wish you the best success with your efforts. Let us know how you are doing.

[Proud2BMe 1,016]

@@ojibway

???????

I'm very confused. Are you saying you cancelled your surgery because your family or friends did not want you to have it? Is this correct? Or do you mean that you were hoping that they would help pay for it and then they told you no?

I guess I'm a bit confused because I don't want the surgery based upon the opinions of my friends and family. I'm doing this for myself. Even if every single family member or friend were against this surgery I would still get it because it ultimately is about my health and my body, not theirs. Right now my sister is dead set against me having the surgery and tries to scare me by claiming she has psychic premonitions that I'm going to die and be horrible pain. So my response is to cut her out of my life until after the surgery. I don't want her negativity in my life right now. And this is sad because she needs the surgery more than I do. She thinks that she can do this on her own and now is into this crazy notion of hypnosis to make you think you have a lap band. Well, good luck to her but I'm getting the surgery.

Good luck to you but I would never cancel my surgery just because my family and friends didn't approve.