I'm done telling folks. They don't get it

[Seahawkgirl 129]

I've chosen to tell my husband and my best friend. That's it. For work and everyone else, I am telling them I am getting a hernia repair - 100% true. The rest of it just isn't any one else's business.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

@@LipstickLady you know I'm fine with your posts. No worries here.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

Wow, wow and wow. What is with the hostility on this tread? We are all friends and supporters of each other. No need for that.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

Hey! I like this blocking feature! Now that I figured out how to do it.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Blocking is a great feature. I've never blocked anyone because I am too darn nosy but it's a great feature to have at our disposal.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@@LipstickLady you know I'm fine with your posts. No worries here.

Well....that escalated quickly and unnecessarily. I must have missed something. THANK GOODNESS!

Edit: NOT YOU! HAHAHAA!! XXXXOOO

[LipstickLady 25,682]

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keep the vagary-jays all day day, and either way I'm running for major of Hay hay Capture_zps5bf84c3c.jpg

Well. That's an odd "first" post.

[DesWill 11]

Wow....

[Dee951 28]

I told my family first. My mom was very supportive and my kids just said mom you don't need that. I told a few friends and co workers once I started taking the required classes. I was talking to a coworker and she said don't tell to many people. She said because then you will find people watching you and what you eat and so on. I thought well people are going to judge either way. That's just life! Life would be much more pleasant if we support and accept each other but that's not the real world. I have just decided to do the best I can and focus on my goals.

[Jana77 2]

I have my date 10 Feb, started the shakes today - game on

The biggest emotional drain for me right now is my family (mum, partner, mother in law, aunts) all trying to talk me out of it, I cry every time I try stick up for what I'm doing and explain this is a long term aid to help me, not a brain snap. They are being even less sympathetic than my endo who just tells me I need to eat less...

I like what Darla15 wrote about turning the questions back on them, I'll give that a crack

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

@@Jana77 - Even easier just stop talking about it. There really is no need to continue to have confrontation when both sides are firmly decided. Simple say, "Thank you for your concern, but I no longer wish to have this discussion." Then stop. Stop before feelings are hurt and stop before you feel frustrated. if you need to walk away. Not every battle will be won.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Not every battle will be won.

And why in the world would YOUR decision about YOUR health and YOUR body even be a discussion or a battle? It's YOURS and YOURS alone.

Period.

[Jana77 2]

Yeah I know... and I am doing this for me and my health alone. Its just strange that I had an elective C-section in 2013 (Major Surgery) and it didn't evoke this type of push back, no one blinked an eye.

[Folly 308]

Blocking is a great feature. I've never blocked anyone because I am too darn nosy but it's a great feature to have at our disposal.

You crack me up Darling!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Only my hubby and two close friends and my PCP and his nurse know. No other relatives or other close friends or acquaintances or clients know.

I didn't have this surgery to help anyone but myself. WLS is not an ideology, a cause or a crusade of mine. It's a private medical matter. I didn't require any advice or approvals or commiseration from anyone. This was solely my decision.

Consequently, I don't have to put up with s**t from anyone.

Edited January 27, 2015 by VSGAnn2014