Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

It still stings...



Recommended Posts

No matter how many times some kid tells my daughter that her mommy is fat it still hurts me every single time. And not even for me, but for her. My 6 year old should not have to stick up for me to other kids because of how I look. And bless her little heart for telling that girl not to talk bad about her Mom because her Mom is losing wieght and gonna be skinny soon. I just wish I had never allowed myself to get in the position I am in right now so that she would not have to deal with it. You know what gets me the most is that the other little girl's Mom was sitting right behind me at our daughter's softball game and said nothing about it. I am so glad that my children know enough to show respect to others and not say things that will hurt people feelings. But then again that probably come down to parenting.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I hear you, babygirl. One of the lowest moments of my life was at my daughter's preschool, when one of her friends leaned over and "whispered" to another one about how fat Gillian's mommy was. As they say, kids can be cruel.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

That really burns my ass. It does come down to parenting. Shame on her for not teaching her kids how to be kind, or at least to keep their mouths shut....

Take some consolation in this, though, we always get as good as we give. She'll get hers.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've taught my kids to respond to statments like that with "Yeah?? and??" I told my daughters from an early age that being called fat is only stating the obvious and that they shouldn't get hurt or offended by it.

Now, yes it hurts that someone wants to hurt my child by cutting me or her daddy down, but I will NOT let my kids think they have to ashamed of my obesity! My issues show on the outside...via FAT. Who know's what issues "their" parents have...alcohol? drugs? work-a-holic? cheating parents? neglectful parents? etc... I let my kids know "children like that have parents that have bigger problems than me, so we should feel sorry for them." Fortunately, we haven't dealt with a whole lot of it, but it does happen from time to time and perhaps my approach is a little unorthodox, but I want my kids to know that a fat person is a person with the same value as anyone else.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • cryoder22

      Day 1 of pre-op liquid diet (3 weeks) and I'm having a hard time already. I feel hungry and just want to eat. I got the protein and supplements recommend by my program and having a hard time getting 1 down. My doctor / nutritionist has me on the following:
      1 protein shake (bariatric advantage chocolate) with 8 oz of fat free milk 1 snack = 1 unjury protein shake (root beer) 1 protein shake (bariatric advantage orange cream) 1 snack = 1 unjury protein bar 1 protein shake (bariatric advantace orange cream or chocolate) 1 snack = 1 unjury protein soup (chicken) 3 servings of sugar free jello and popsicles throughout the day. 64 oz of water (I have flavor packets). Hot tea and coffee with splenda has been approved as well. Does anyone recommend anything for the next 3 weeks?
      · 1 reply
      1. NickelChip

        All I can tell you is that for me, it got easier after the first week. The hunger pains got less intense and I kind of got used to it and gave up torturing myself by thinking about food. But if you can, get anything tempting out of the house and avoid being around people who are eating. I sent my kids to my parents' house for two weeks so I wouldn't have to prepare meals I couldn't eat. After surgery, the hunger was totally gone.

    • buildabetteranna

      I have my final approval from my insurance, only thing holding up things is one last x-ray needed, which I have scheduled for the fourth of next month, which is my birthday.

      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BetterLeah

      Woohoo! I have 7 more days till surgery, So far I am already down a total of 20lbs since I started this journey. 
      · 1 reply
      1. NeonRaven8919

        Well done! I'm 9 days away from surgery! Keep us updated!

    • Ladiva04

      Hello,
      I had my surgery on the 25th of June of this year. Starting off at 117 kilos.😒
      · 1 reply
      1. NeonRaven8919

        Congrats on the surgery!

    • Sandra Austin Tx

      I’m 6 days post op as of today. I had the gastric bypass 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×