Is your S.O. Supportive

[Countrygrrl 450]

I'm coming to terms that having support at home is a wonderful thing but I will survive without it. My GF seems to think I will suddenly find a long lost love of all things Hetro! We have been together 14 years. 14!! I don't understand what her problem is. She keeps trying to tempt me with junk and telling me I'm just gonna wish i didn't do it. Oh and my personal favorite I won't be attracted to you. I am getting this WLS not to be "sexy" cause ask me I will tell you I still am! But because I miss doing what I love. Ridding horses. Hiking, fishing. I'm dying to do a mud run. And let's be honest the fat is killing me in high heels :0D #frustratedfemme

[FrankyG 1,450]

Started out a bit unsupported, but we talked through everything and he's come around to thinking this is a good thing for the both of us and is on board. I'm still worried that he'll not find me as attractive, but not worried enough to not go through with the surgery. While I am concerned about what I'll end up looking like, the main reason is I'm tired of not being able to go out and do things like horseback riding, biking and hiking. I don't want to have joint replacement surgery (like my mother) due to weight issues. I don't want to deal with high blood pressure or diabetes as I age and get fatter. I want to be healthy and get out there and enjoy life again!

I never had to deal with the outright sabotage you're dealing with, and I would definitely suggest sitting down with her (and maybe a counselor?) and talking through all of her worries and insecurities and how this is for your health and wellbeing. But her being that blatant about trying to mess up your weight loss speaks volumes about her being VERY insecure and possibly a red flag on the longevitity of your relationship after WLS if she doesn't come around and stop being a hinderance instead of supportive. So sorry you're dealing with this!

ETA: saw this in the recent posts before I noticed what forum section it was in; hope it was still okay to give an opinion!

Edited December 17, 2014 by FrankiesGirl

[Countrygrrl 450]

Started out a bit unsupported, but we talked through everything and he's come around to thinking this is a good thing for the both of us and is on board. I'm still worried that he'll not find me as attractive, but not worried enough to not go through with the surgery. While I am concerned about what I'll end up looking like, the main reason is I'm tired of not being able to go out and do things like horseback riding, biking and hiking. I don't want to have joint replacement surgery (like my mother) due to weight issues. I don't want to deal with high blood pressure or diabetes as I age and get fatter. I want to be healthy and get out there and enjoy life again!

ETA: saw this in the recent posts before I noticed what forum section it was in; hope it was still okay to give an opinion!

:0) I am glad you gave your opinion.