Relationships....

[laurenella82 625]

Just curious to know if I'm alone in this. I'm 32 and I've not, in my adult life, had a boyfriend. I had this conversation with my psych doc and with a close girlfriend who knows I'm on the path to surgery. (PS, she's a phenomenal chef and is super considerate and supportive!) Anywho, the last time I called a guy my bf I was 12-13... I think this mostly stems from me not wanting.to be judged for my size and from me being afraid of rejection. But, I really want to be in a relationship headed toward marraige. I would like at least one more child......

Am I alone in that?

[bobbyswife 862]

I think that as you gain confidence and fall in love with yourself again, love will find you. Just be open to it and it will happen xoxo

[BitterSweet* 835]

I like what @@bobbyswife said so I am going to second it. Btw, I tell my daughter all of the time that men are easily impressed. They're usually just happy when you show up, so there's never a need to be something that you're not. Be yourself and what ^^^^^ said will come to fruition.

Keep your standards high and believe that you deserve nothing but the best, 'cause there are PLENTY of thirsty and shady dudes willing to take advantage of you whether you're big or small.

For the record though, at best I could be your older sister, not your mom. =)

[Crystal88 85]

You are definitely not alone.

I'm going to sound totally vain, but I seem to either attract 60 year old men, or forty-somethings with a lazy eye who are also missing some teeth. NO JOKE!! I'm 26 years old, so I think I deserve someone closer to my age and slightly more attractive. It's just yet to happen..

Edited December 16, 2014 by Crystal88

[BitterSweet* 835]

LMAO!!!!!

[laurenella82 625]

You are definitely not alone.

I'm going to sound totally vain, but I seem to either attract 60 year old men, or forty-somethings with a lazy eye who are also missing some teeth. NO JOKE!! I'm 26 years old, so I think I deserve someone closer to my age and slightly more attractive. It's just yet to happen..

Lol! What is it about old men and young girls lol! I used to be really attracted to older men (not 60 though). My son's donor is 18 years older than me. He killed the older man thing for me because mentally he's 15 and I couldn't deal Smh. So I get what you mean wanting someone closer to your age....with all of his teeth!! Lol

[laurenella82 625]

You all give great advice. Thanks!

[bobbyswife 862]

Well, I'm 40 and my hubby is 54 but you'd never know it. He's a sexy beast, and the most amazing lover I've ever had, so don't knock the over 50 crowd LOL

[Twirpo75 50]

I didn't meet my first real boyfriend until I was 24. And he was my first at everything. He made it very clear that he preferred bigger girls so I felt comfortable with him. It was the first time I ever let my guard down and enjoyed my body. He told me something I will never forget and I keep in the front of my brain. We were talking about my past insecurities with guys and he said "Did you expect to shock them when you got naked? That they would jump up and yell "You're fat?!"? As if they didn't know when they laid down with you?" He's right. And as a now 39 yr old engaged woman I can tell you, there are men who like heavy women. They love it. We all have our standards. I prefer tall, thick men. I ended up with a tall, skinny one, but I haven't had the chance to fatten him up yet. =) But I will once we are married. There is a key for every lock girl. Love yourself, and love your body. Even the part you hate most might be what your dream man has been looking for all along. Embrace it!! =)

[Garifab_VSG 122]

@@bobbyswife, your husband does not look his age. Very hot!

[par1959 470]

Men are easily impressed? LOL!!! A good catch has to have much more on the ball than just showing up to impress me:) Education, emotional stablity and employeed are a few things that come to mind. Thats what I tell my daughter.

[BitterSweet* 835]

@@par1959, I totally agree. I used the word "men" because I'm referring to another adult (the OP). My kid is a tween and girls at this age are easily caught up thinking that they must impress boys when that is far from the case. Boys in her age group are easily impressed because they are kids. She has several classmates who are constantly trying to win the affections of some pimply-faced boy, and the shenanigans she describes to me are unbelievable. So that's where my comment comes from.

Any man worth attracting and keeping should have just as high standards and expectations as the woman. Sorry if my post doesn't read that way. The point is to just be yourself. Plus, attracting someone is easy, keeping them is another matter entirely.