Not feeling sure about going through with WLS...

[freshair 135]

I can relate my biggest fear is all the saggy skin and what am i really gonna look skinny. I'm only 2 weeks post op and have started to regret it, but most threads I've read here say that it gets better and we will love our new bodies. Fingers crossed they are saying the truth

[ProjectMe 909]

@@JerseyCityGal, you nailed it. The OP titled her post...Gettin real, so I thought she wanted "real" responses. It does seem like the only respnses she "likes" are those that go along with what she wants to hear. One cannot learn that way. I joined this forum so that I could learn and hear different perspectives....without the sugar coating

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Okay, there is alot said in this thread and much of it I feel pretty strongly about. Simply put - this surgery is no cakewalk and don't do it if you aren't ready. That isn't tough love or whatever, it is the truth. I had the band in 2001 - horrible results; sleeve in 2011 - amazing results.

There are several differences, but one of them was ME. In 2011 I was so OVER food, excuses and being obese. I was just DONE. I thought I was determined in 2001 - but I just didn't know what determined meant. For me alot of this was letting go of some of the defensiveness I had around the topic - as a lifetime "professional dieter" I sometimes acted like I didn't have anything to learn. It was a real change in me to accept that i had everything to learn.

Excess skin is a tough one because it is easy to look at pictures posted by people and imagine that the saggy skin looked great filled with obesity. this plays a real mind game on you. I will just say that even after losing ALOT of weight (over 160) and having a lot of skin at the time, the boyfriend I had felt pretty strongly that I didn't really "need" plastics. As long as I was wearing Spanx I looked pretty good. A lover, a man who cares for you won't be as freaking out by the saggy skin as you are.

Anyway, we each need to make the best decision for ourselves, for our health, for our happiness. WLS is not for everyone. "Now" isn't always the right time for WLS and we each need to come to grips with that. I was in emotional anguish for over a year over the decision of whether to be sleeved. I suffered greatly and I think in many ways that year of pain helped me be so resolved once I finally DID go for it.

Best of luck and much success no matter what you choose.

[Chrystee 838]

<p>Its ok.. I've been where you are, which is kind of in denial. I eat good foods too! I eat as organic as possible, high quality foods, etc.. but I also eat too much.. but I was where you were before. I'm honestly not trying to be mean or anything.. I totally understand, I totally get the whole PCOS thing, and I understand that it IS harder to lose weight with PCOS. It is.. but our bodies don't work like other folks, who don't have it.</p>

Edited December 18, 2014 by Chrystee

[blondebomb 580]

I can relate my biggest fear is all the saggy skin and what am i really gonna look skinny. I'm only 2 weeks post op and have started to regret it, but most threads I've read here say that it gets better and we will love our new bodies. Fingers crossed they are saying the truth

@freshair//yes it DOES get better! I remember my first 4 wks an it was brutal. for me anyways. I also had hernia repair and I had esophagas spasms like crazy with every sip I took. but after the end of that second wk they stopped..an I just took one day at a time did the protocol an the weight just kept dropping. that month was the LONGEST month of my life! haha.. but I got thru it. I ballooned up the most I had ever but I did it for me. no one else. taking one step at a time. surprising I am down over 80 in 5 months an so far so good. drink drink drink! stay as hydrated as you possibly can. it took me forever to nurse a bottle of Water. it literally was every 15 min an all freaking day thing..trying to get my needed meds down well lets just say I didnt get them all down. but I did what I could. hang in there! it will be worth it! its a learning journey...one that I am sooo thankful I was privelaged to make for myself. (an of course the hubs loves it to) but he always supported me in my bad an fat days just as he does now...keep us posted! dont worry about the skin right now. just focus!

[freshair 135]

@@blondebomb thanks for the support day 18 and man it's still rough but as I've been reading on here i know the 1st month it's the hardest hurdle to get through. I'm trying to stay as positive as i can and hubby bless his soul is putting up with all my grouchyness. He's been very helpful and supportive. And yes I'm really just trying to drink as much as I can. Again thanks for the support!

[blondebomb 580]

@@blondebomb thanks for the support day 18 and man it's still rough but as I've been reading on here i know the 1st month it's the hardest hurdle to get through. I'm trying to stay as positive as i can and hubby bless his soul is putting up with all my grouchyness. He's been very helpful and supportive. And yes I'm really just trying to drink as much as I can. Again thanks for the support!

yw! I remember my first month like it was yesterday. My surgeon told me when I last seen him in his office before surgery If I can just get thru the first month you'll do great. Boy was he right! but it is soo worth it. I would do it again in a heart beat! I got bitchy , moody, had some crying spells, but they evened out. as you loose your hormones change. I was seeing drastic changes in my bodys shape that really just motivated me that much more bc I finally seen this was really working for me! I automatically had my doubts it would work bc everything else I had ever did didnt work. but I luv my results an thank goodness I have a very supportive hubs! that support means alot! happy for you an hang in there its going to work an your doing great! do what you can we are limited bc of the space in there an it will be swelled for months. keep us posted..