"You took the easy way out"

[Bronxmerci 312]

they can't understand something they aren't going through. to them it seems like the easy way out because they don't know that we have to just up and change our eating habits and forcibly eat healthier and less. they think we can still eat all the bad stuff and lose weight like nothing. i for one, thought this surgery would be easier than it actually was. i had many complications and simply can't tolerate any food. i am 9 weeks out and live off of Protein Shakes which make me sick too. at the end of the day we know that this wasn't the easy way out, i believe it is harder. after going through all my complications i was wishing i could go back and eat healthier and control my portions, i just didn't have the knowledge i have today back then.

[Chrystee 838]

If it's the easy way out why are they so stupid and don't do the same? Dimwitted I suppose.

Cause they want accolades for doing it the "harder" way and being more successful than you.

[jessica2014 22]

Yes I think I would punch someone if they said that especially now that I'm

About a month out!! It isn't easy at all..it does get better but lately been so sick. This is for the strong people

Never realized how strong I really am

[Runthejewels 3]

Hi, all. I was fearful of the same thing. That's why only 2 ppl know. My hubby and my best friend. I told no one else. Family, my children no one. I haven't I had surgery on 10 Dec, weighing in at 238. As of this morning I'm 221. I don't go back to work until 5 Jan. My excuse will and has been, is that I had my gallbladder removed and had to change my diet which true with the exception of the bypass part. It's a personal decision and everyone has a right to tell, or not. That's just me.

[Cupcake 801]

I have never had anyone tell me this but if they had gone through the surgery they would know that this is far from being easy and we did not make this choice without serious thought. When I hear people say this I think to myself what is easy about admitting that you need help. No one wants to ask for help of any kind, and admitting that you have a problem and having the courage to seek out help makes you a very smart person because for once in your life you are putting your needs before anyone else to be healthy and you do not have to apologize to anyone for that. Hold your head up high you deserve it.

[coastalchick 61]

I shut folks down by answering "why yes, yes I did take the easy way out"... followed by an eye roll. I have yet to have a rebuttal to that....lol. I owe no one an explanation... period.

[TLBolin 3]

I've had the same thing happen to me just when I've lost weight the old fashioned way. People say things like "wow, you've lost a ton of weight" without realizing they are really saying, 'wow, you were really really fat before". People who haven't had issues with their weight are quick to judge but screw them because they don't know what we've gone through.

I'm hesitant to let my friends and co workers know for just that reason, though. I've told my boss and managers that I will be having classes for the next six weeks and will have to leave early for those, that I will probably need about a week or so off at some point about the beginning of March, and then I'll have some appointments afterwards, too. With the hair loss about the 3rd month I anticipate that people will think the worst as I will hopefully have dropped quite a bit of weight by then and I don't even care if they think the worst. I told one friend of mine who has been struggling with weight loss and is much bigger than me and I thought she'd be excited for me. She told me that it was a horrible idea, she would not support me, and good luck with "that". I was flabbergasted that someone who should understand was so against it.

My best friend is much heavier than I am and has all kinds of co-morbidities and is against surgery because someone in her family died from complications of it so I'm just not going to tell her. She can think the worst or she can just believe me when I tell her that I made a lifestyle choice and that's that.

I think as we get our self confidence back once the weight loss begins that our happiness will easily move us past all of those negative Nellys out there...I hope so, at least.

[zedqueen 27]

Omg. NOthing pisses more than such ignorance

[staceylc 3]

I hate that people refer to it as the "easy way out" because it is definitely not easy NOR is it just an excuse or anything like that. I had to go through a 6 month required program before I could have surgery. I had to make the changes in my diet and eating habits to lose 10% of my weight before surgery. I made the commitment to make the life change. I had people around me telling me, "why can't you continue what you're doing and then you won't need surgery?" and it's just NOT that easy but no one understands unless they are going through what you're going through. I chose to block out the negativity and not let everyone know that I had the surgery because it's none of their business. This is the absolute hardest thing I have ever done and it's still a daily journey that we all have to embark on.

[ladypoohbear 123]

Easy way put. NOT!##### id like to know how u figure its easy way out.

1.Measure everything that goes in your mouth.

2. Be sure not to overeat, cause you will like crap.

3. Return doctor visits.

4. Read labels

5. Chew chew chew.

6.make sure you getting enough Protein.< /p>

i could go on and on.... But the point is...its ongoing for life hard but yes...well worth it.

[Tracy6035 6]

I agree.It's best not to tell anyone People are so jealous and negative.I'm preop.I used to let people know.They were so negative, I stop saying anything.Its jealousy and

I will let no one stop me from getting healthy.

[jjwhitman 19]

I read somewhere that people who suffer from morbid obesity and lose all their weight, only 10% can keep it off for good. Compare that to patients that have gastric bypass's surgery and the success rate goes up to 80% Weight loss success permanently. It's just simple, logical math.

Edited January 24, 2015 by jjwhitman