The "Idiot's" Guide to Easy Answers for the Nosy People in our Lives.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

A hot topic for debate is to tell about our WLS or not to tell. In my opinion, the only "right" answer to this question is to do what is best for YOU. The choices you make about your body are deeply personal and you don't owe ANYONE an explanation or frankly, any answers at all about your weight loss. That said, the nosy nellies (and well meaning, but slightly clueless folk) are often relentless in their questioning.

I will not lie and I will do everything in my power to be polite (for a little while anyways) but firm. It's really not hard. I am just over 18 months out and I've not told ANYONE that I didn't want to about my surgery. Perhaps because I am not a pushover and when I speak, I leave little room for further discussion, but I have only had two people even hint around about surgery, and no one has had the balls to ask out right.

So my answers to the questions I've been asked or I've read that others have been asked (some copied from my reply on another thread):

How are you losing weight? "I'm working with my doctor, eating smaller, healthier portions and exercising."

Are you on a special diet? "I am working with my doctor to eat smaller, healthier portions."

What are you eating? "Well, my doctor and nutritionist have come up with a plan that works specifically for me."

Are you allowed to eat...? "Just like you, I can eat whatever I want, I simply choose not to."

How much have you lost? "A lot."

Well, how much? "A lot."

So how many pounds? "A lot."

What size do you wear now? "That's a weird question."

How much do you weigh? :blank stare: "Why in the world would you ask that?" or "I'm sure you didn't mean to sound as rude as you did."

Did you have surgery? "Why in the world would you ask such a personal question?" or "I didn't realize you were interested in WLS. I suggest you contact a doctor." or "That's a weird question."

How much more do you want to lose? "I'll know when I get there."

Are you still trying to lose weight? "I am working on being the healthiest I can be."

So HOW MUCH have you lost? "A LOT."

Wow! You've lost a TON of weight. "Thank you."

WOW! You are shrinking to nothing. "Thank you."

WOW! You've lost a whole person. "Thank you."

You are going to blow away soon. "Thank you."

Wow. You can't lose much more, can you? "Thank you."

You are really getting too thin. "Thank you."

You eat like a bird. "You eat like a horse." No, not really. HA! "Thank you."


What other questions have you been asked or are you worried about people asking you? Give me something hard!

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

This made my Monday.

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

This is why I love lipstick lady

[ProjectMe 909]

Love it! Too bad I didn't read this prior to all the questions thrown at me last week. Now I can't wait for another person to ask!

[Leepers 1,195]

I always hate the question, "Do you feel better?" It kinda irritates me because it assumes that just because I was fat, that I felt like sh** all the time. I'm a nurse and I worked my ass off then and still do.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Do you feel better? "I feel great! How do you feel?"

[Bandista 7,466]

You're wasting away! "Well, that would be a waste!" Catching on.........

[Mrs. Reid 392]

How about "I think you're losing to much weight."

[LipstickLady 25,682]

How about "I think you're losing to much weight."

"Thank you for your concern. How's your holiday shopping coming along?"

[Puppypaws57 137]

How about when you are stalled for a while and are asked "are you still losing weight?". I don't like saying "No."

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Does it really matter what we say if we don't want to talk about how much we weigh?

In which case ... any or all of the following answers would suffice:

No.

Yes.

I don't know -- I weigh only once a month (once a year?) on my doctor's scales.

I don't know -- I don't weigh myself anymore. I go by how my clothes are fitting.

I no longer discuss my weight with co-workers / relatives / anyone / idiots / f**king idiots.

Edited December 2, 2014 by VSGAnn2014

[Puppypaws57 137]

It does matter because I don't want to be rude. If the people in are lives are asking they are usually fairly close to us. Don't want to damage the relationship, just don't want to answer the questions.

I think we can still be polite about it :-)

[LipstickLady 25,682]

How about when you are stalled for a while and are asked "are you still losing weight?". I don't like saying "No."

I'm doing great, how about you?

[Puppypaws57 137]

Thanks Lipstick Lady. I'm going to print out all your answers!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

It's easy. Smile kindly and answer them like they are idiots for asking. Not the first time, but the second, third, fourth, etc.