Preparing for Family this Holiday Season!

[Louisa Latela 226]

With the holiday season in full swing you may find yourself in the company of people who you avoid most of the year, people who "push your buttons:" who can trigger you to be reactive or defensive. People who USED to trigger you to overeat.

A few things you can do to prepare for this:

1. Have realistic expectations. Don't expect them to all of a sudden be different this year.

2. Don't take their words or actions personally. (Whatever anyone says or does is a reflection of what's going on for them; it has nothing to do with you. Think about it: if someone feels good about themselves they see good in others, if someone does't feel good about themselves they won't see good in others; they will be angry, jealous, judgmental, etc.)

3. Set an intention to enjoy the holiday. Wear a Bracelet or carry something in your pocket that every time you see or touch it you remember to LOOK FOR THE JOY in this moment.

4. Every time you think of the person/people who you dread seeing say a prayer for and send light and love to them, envision them happy and healthy.

5. And if someone says something that makes you nervous or upset remember the 4 R's of Responsible Respectful Responding:

1. RECENTER: Take a deep breath. If you are anxious or upset you are not centered and your breathing is shallow. Taking a couple deep breaths will help you get out of your head and back into your body; to your Center wherein lies your power (when you are not centered you lose your personal power) .

2. REFOCUS: Remind yourself of your intentions for your life and Focus on how you can handle this situation (in a kind and respectful manner) that will support those intentions.

3. RELAX: Once you are Centered and Focused you can then Relax: do a quick body scan and release any tension you might still be holding.

4.RESPOND: Now instead of impulsively reacting (from a state of fear or anxiety) you can Responsibly and Respectfully Respond to the situation with Clarity, Calm, Compassion, and Confidence!

Affirmation: Recenter, Refocus, Relax, and Respond: That's how I roll!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

Live in Love,

Louisa

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