Everyone who ever lost a pound thinks they know it all.

[Stevehud 1,790]

So I have been selling off some toys from my collection . action figures still in their packaging, star wars figures mostly. So a lady finds me on Facebook and she buys a few items, I meet her and she starts telling me about how she lost 40 pounds through her life and wellness coach and that she would like me to meet him and etc etc. I cordially decline and say Im set with myself for the surgery and yada yada. So this morning I get a message from her on face book, "Hi its me the woman who bought some items from you yesterday. I would really like to set up a meeting with you and my wellness coach, it wouldn't take long and I know he could get you the same result without the surgery. (Well Im glad SHE knows he can) so again im nice, I say no thank you im ok with what im doing etc. an hour ago I get another message. "hi again its me, my wellness coach asked me to contact you again he says its important that he talk with you , he feels the surgery is a mistake. " OH HE FEELS???

Well I would like to simply have been rude but I wasn't. I wanted to scream at this lady and call her a few choice names.

It just boggles the mind that people think we are doing this needlessly. Im not trying to drop a few pounds for a wedding. I'm telling you nothing is worse to a bariatric patient than some idiot who lose a few pounds and believes that makes them the god of weight loss.

They need to be slapped a few times.

How many of you deal with or have dealt with this?

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I never deal with issues like that because I keep my private life private.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I think you have handled it well. "Thank you for your concern, but I am happy with my decision (or Drs. advice, or whatever)." should suffice. If she persists, I would politely ask her not to contact you again.

Some people really have no manners.

[<3 Carolina Girl <3 84]

I've been there. When I publicly posted on Facebook about my decision, I only had one person to react negatively. She is someone that claimed to know my husband from high school (he doesn't remember her) and I had never met. She added me as a friend out of the blue just a few weeks before. She told me that I should watch a movie that had changed her life. Really? A movie?? Also told me that she knew what I was going through. No, honey, you don't know me, much less what I have been through. I sent her a lengthy message about her unsolicited advise and how she did not know me or my situation.

I (and my husband) have since blocked her from our accounts and don't feel bad about it at all. That's the kind of person I don't need in my life. I'd suggest the same. She doesn't know you or your life/struggles. It's ok to NOT be friends with some people on social media. I would block & don't look back if I were in your shoes. Just my opinion.

[Stevehud 1,790]

Lipstick lady- I refuse to play your game.

[DizzyLib 45]

You handled this well. The "Broken Record Technique" is the only way in these situations and then eventually if they still persist, you ignore/bann completely. YOU are more important. All the best!

Edited November 19, 2014 by DizzyLizzie

[barbb3 115]

LOL - my mil used to say to me "I sympathize with you so much. I have been fighting the same 7 pounds my whole life." Really? 7 pounds? Not the same thing at all. Good luck to you!

[amazon 579]

My niece is a life/wellness coach. I had told my brother and his wife that I'd decided to have WLS. I felt that my immediate family should know - I know I would like to know if something major was going on with them. They were very supportive and loving.

About a week later I get an email from my niece: Let me work with you, if we fail you can still go through with it..."stomach stapling" is drastic, blah blah.

If it was anyone else, I would have been a little curt with them. But I know she was approaching me out of concern. It took over a week to reply, but I did so politely. She seemed to understand, and has been very supportive since.

I don't know what I would have done if it was from a stranger, and they kept persisting like a telemarketer!

[Elode 8,093]

@@Stevehud I would ask her how much commission she's making off this??! Tell Her sure you will but you won't be paying him a dime. I bet it doesn't come up again PS good job avoiding trivial arguments!!!!

Edited November 19, 2014 by Elode

[Stevehud 1,790]

this forum is a haven lol i would not know how people get through the surgeries etc without this place. and the people here.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Lipstick lady- I refuse to play your game.

Game? I'm simply replying to your post. No need to be rude.

[laurenella82 625]

I've had people try to talk me out of it. I've only told a few family members and close friends that I'm doing it. When I suggest they do the research and then tell me why they feel I shouldn't have it they usually have nothing more to say. Also I make it very clear to them that they have NO IDEA what it's like to be overweight most of your life. That usually shits them up too. But this is with my loved ones. In my opinion, you gave her too much communication about it lol! After the first time you said no that should have been it. When she messaged you again she should have been blocked! Lol!!! That's just me ????

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

She would have been unfriended and blocked. That's why I don't tell my business to everyone.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

People genuinely have no clue. Being a tad overweight is a whole different ballgame than fighting morbid obesity for DECADES! It's funny, since I have been at goal for awhile thin people think I am one of them..Ha! Losing 10 or 40# is a drop in the bucket. I applaud them that they don't need WLS, but I did.

I always say that WLS ISN'T the easy way out, it was the ONLY way out for me.

[XXShelXX 346]

First of all what she is doing is terribly rude and invasive. Im sure she thinks shes helping somehow but wow just sooooo RUDE! Only you know whats beat for you and its a very personal decision. She needs to butt out of other peoples business.