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Here is an excellent article from the Boston Globe on how to respond to someone who makes rude comments about your weight. I happen to wholeheartedly agree with the advice. It is rude and tacky to comment on someone's appearance.

http://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2014/11/08/advice-how-shut-fat-shamer/JKE06xIgCc69xNGVefV2PI/story.html

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Perfect.

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I loved this article. I even bought the book referenced in the article, "Lessons from the Fat-o-sphere: Quit Dieting and Declare a Truce with Your Body." You can get a used copy at AbeBooks.com for $1 plus $2.46 shipping.

I overheard my parents shaming overweight people growing up. They would see someone obese and try to guess their weight. They would comment about huge, fat ankles or butts on others and wonder aloudhow they can even sit in a chair. They wouldn't say these things in a hush tone, but just discuss it between each other in the car or at home. Whenever I overheard these comments, it always made me feel uncomfortable. The children were "seen and not heard", so I couldn't let my thoughts be known about these rude comments. Even as an adult, I still don't know what to say when my mother tells me my sister is like a beach whale or that my shirt isn't something someone of my large size should wear. I am going to take the advice from this article and let her know that her remarks are rude and tacky.

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I was asked just yesterday why did I lose all that weight!! This was of course another overweight person. I wanted to tell her the same reason she needed to lose some!! I just smiled and said I'm not done that I planned to lose another 30!

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What do I say?.....THANK YOU!

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Great article, thanks!

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