I was told I had surgery to get attention

[natalie_christin 61]

Unfortunately, spouses do you have issues when somebody has bariatric surgery. Most doctors will tell you that from the get-go. Usually they require a psych eval to make sure that people are not only obviously fit to have the surgery but there's another component to them understanding what may come. They help individuals understand that those can be concerns on both sides of the street. i'm sure that since you went to Tijuana, you probably didn't have to do any of most of the preop that doctors here require.

But regardless,it sounds like you and your spouse might need to go talk to a marriage counselor. It's honestly a good way for both of you to get your feelings out in a controlled situation.

I went to marriage counseling with my now exhusband. I realize by saying it's an ex-husband but it sounds like it didn't work but, there were problems with him that were uncontrollable (he was bipolar and abusive)

The best you can do is reassure him but like I said, I would definitely go to a marriage counselor. It's the only way to put any insecurities to rest. And the counselor can definitely help guide you guys through it.

Best wishes to you both and I hope you guys find your way back together with your relationship.

[roundisashape 712]

Well, of COURSE that's why you did it - isn't that why we all risk our lives to get this done?

Sorry, sarcasm is my first language. I'm really sorry you're dealing with this, and I sure hope you're able to work things out. Don't let it derail your progress - you're worth more than that.