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I got home from surgery around noon. My husband made me walk 15 minutes before getting in to bed. Then I woke up to having to use the restroom. He didn't answer his phone and I started freaking out. I made it and heard him in kitchen. I called over and over and he answered but didn't come. I just burst into tears and haven't stopped yet. He is hitching about finding sugar free Jello. I love him. Had no idea his bedside manner sucked..., not sure why I am so teary.

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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, but believe me it's from the surgery and it will pass. You're entitled to some tears. Your body and mind have been through quite a lot and it's super stressful. Stay connected here and get some rest. Congratulations on your surgery!

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Everything is weird right now because of the surgery. Your body doesn't know what to do so its normal to have mood swings , etc. It will pass. Congratulations !!

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I have had several surgeries and each time, about 2 weeks out, I get very emotional. I would cry at anything. Your husband should not have made you walk like that. He does not live inside your body and don't know how you are feeling. Next time, ignore him and do what your body is telling you to do. Like go to bed.

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I had a similar experience with my husband after my 2nd child was born. I kept calling and calling him and he didn't come. He says he didn't hear me but didn't check on me for over an hour and I had a 103 fever. Who wouldn't check on someone who just had a c section and had a 103 fever. I couldn't move. It was scary. I still bring it up. I'm not expecting much of him after my operation Tuesday.

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He was told I could get blood clots and have a stroke. His mom had a stroke.,, he was also told that my lungs partially collapsed and i have to suck on this breathing thing... I times out of ten I am ok with him pushing me... then I lose my head and cry, calling him mean. I m really not myself.

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You will go through a lot of emotions these next 2 weeks try to stay in a upright position if you have a recliner sleep in it & yes do get up by your self & walk around your living room just like they did in the hospital , also you just had major surgery so take the next 2 days to rest as much as you can another suggestion is put a LOT of pillows behind you if you're laying in bed , pretty soon you can take one by one off till you are comfortable , try to be patient with Husband or family members it will get better , I was lucky because everybody new in my house ,so when one of us aren't feeling well , it's funny because we don't talk to each other on normal days most of the time & when we are sick or had surgery we are more difficult , hope things get better for you like I & others said it will get better.

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