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Ok I have been avoiding this app and discussions. I am 7 months out down 73 lbs. I am completely off the wagon. I have very little support at home because my soon to be husband has no control. I am back to eating out and have completely stalled my weight loss. I feel I have failed. I need some motivation. I need some support. So I am turning to the app that I turned my back on. Has this happened to anyone else I feel so ashamed.

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Yes, I'm there at the moment. What can we do to help each other out? I want to do this! That is too bad that your hubs isn't supportive but you need to be stronger than him. This is your journey, not his.

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We have all been there at one point in time. The feeling of failure and disappointment in our own actions can be devastating at time. You need to realize we are all human and we all make mistakes. The important thing here is to not make it a habit. If you have gotten off the wagon the easiest thing to do it to work to get back on. The key to success is getting back up and going more times than you make that mistake.

OK, so I know I have just spent an entire paragraph spouting one cliche thing after another. How was thing helpful, right? Well the key here is to understand that you are not alone and we all make mistakes. There is an amazing community here for you to lean on when things begin to go south. It is OK to eat out every now and again so long as you are making the right choices when you do. Avoiding fried, fat heavy, and sugar packed foods. The other thing is at the beginning of the meal go ahead and ask for a box. Then put into the box everything but what your portion for that meal will be and sit it on the seat next to you.

Another thing that I have found helpful if it feels like you have stretched your stomach is to take a step back. Reduce your activity to light to moderate for a week and cut your eating back to liquid only (Protein shakes, Jello, etc.) or back to the pureed food stage and the portions associated with it. This will give your stomach a little break and allow it to shrink a little bit. Then start reintroducing food slowly and in smaller portions. This "fast" will help you refocus and rewire as well as re acclimate your body for weight loss.

The key here is that when you make a mistake or you fall off the wagon to realize you are not alone. This is an amazing community that is here for you with love, support, an encouragement. You have come so far, so now, just take a step back, refocus, and attack it fresh in a week or so.

If you need anything at all, please let me know. I am an open book and am here to encourage you in any way that I can. I wish you all the best of luck. I know you can do this!

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Hi, I had gastric bypass and am 8 yrs out. I was at 245 lbs and had gotten down to 115 lbs. I was told I was to low and had to introduce more carbs to my diet. Once I opened that door there was no turning back. My "dream" weight is 127 lbs. I was that for a little over a year. I was going to support group meetings and was doing very well. Then my work schedule changed and I could no longer make it to my monthly meetings. Slowly my weight is creeping back up and presently I am 147 lbs. I know it is from what I am eating. Clearly it is from Chocolet. Yes I am a chocaholic. I know the amounts I can have to not get dumping. I need to get back on track. I do attend weight watchers but points system not working out very well for me. Going to start back to basics. Wish me luck

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