Depressed

[tandi04 8]

Hi everyone I just had my lap band taken out and a revision to a sleeve almost 2 weeks ago. I don't know what is going on with me but this only liquid thing has me so depressed. It was a month with the band and for the most part I did fine but this time is totally different. The last few days I just feel like I have made the wrong choice. I have just been watching my son and husband eat and wondering why I chose to do this to myself, I don't feel normal now. I guess this is hitting me so hard because this one is permanent. Has anyone else felt this way and how did you deal with it? Thanks

[cornhusker 115]

I've had a moment or two where I thought. "Dang, this is permanent!" My fifteen year old asked me the other day if I missed being able to eat like I used to. I told him that every now and then I definitely feel that way but the type of foods I ate and the amount of food I ate prior to surgery just isn't ok...on any level. I compared to a heroin addict. They may love their drugs and the feeling they get from them but it is an absolute guarantee that they will end up dead if they keep at it. That was me...with food. You don't get to the size a bariatric surgery candidate gets to without having some seriously poor eating habits over many years. I told my kid that I realized that there other things that are more important to me other than eating a bunch of crap. Living a long healthy life...being an example to my kids...and enjoying things I've been avoiding for years matter to me. I am 2.5 weeks post surgery so I realize I have a ways to go, but I feel 100% better already. I have lost 20 pounds since surgery, I'm fitting into clothes I haven't worn in a long time, and I feel more energized. Food became too important to me for a lot of years and I am determined to move it way down the line in my list of priorities. I wish you luck. I hope with some success and weight loss you'll feel better about your decision.

[SThomas209 5]

I had my band taken out and a sleeve done 5 weeks ago. There was a point when I thought I would not be able to have it done because of unexpected financial problems so that made me want it even more. This has made me appreciate it even more.

Permanent is a good thing! You do not want to lose your sleeve do you? Turn the switch from depression to hope! Do not give in to the self pity thoughts that may be overcoming you. I happens to many of us just get rid of them fast, do not dwell in them.

You know you need this tool to help you get healthier. You also know that in 2 weeks you will be eating once again and will have a tool that will help save your life!

[tandi04 8]

Thanks for the responses I hope it will get better It just sucks watching everyone else eat and feeling different and alone. I know I will get over it after I can start eating a little more normal. We were on the road this weekend and it was a pain to mix shakes and not just being able to grab something like everyone else. I will be ok it just will take time to adjust.

[BitterSweet* 835]

I am fully expecting to feel this way after surgery. @@SThomas209, thank you for that wonderful response. I will refer back to it in my rough moments.

[BitterSweet* 835]

I am fully expecting to feel this way after surgery. @@cornhusker and @@SThomas209, thank y'all for those wonderful responses. I will refer back to this in my rough moments.

[TheCurvyJones 721]

If you are two weeks out you should be able to transition to soft foods very soon, correct? And then it's only a matter of time before you are eating like "normal".

[finediva 979]

Remember, this too shall pass. You will not be at this stage forever. Believe or not I went to a July 4th BBQ one day after my pre op diet started. Had a good time and did not indulge. Ten days after surgery, with my drain still attached, mi went to a baby christening. It was a sit down, looked yummy, dinner. I took my chicken broth in an insulated travel mug and explained to my host I was recovering from surgery and unable to eat. I was supplied

bottles of Water all night long. At 8 weeks I went to a

birthday dinner at an Italian restaurant. I was still on soft

foods. I drank my Protein Shake in the car on the way

there, nibbled on some baked chicken while there and had

another shake wating for me on the ride home. I say all

that to say, all these events involved yummy looking food

and people enjoying it. Did I wish I could just chow down

also? Hell yeah! But I couldn't. I could of stayed at home,

but I didn't want to do that. I wanted to go out and have

fun like a normal person. And yes, I enjoyed myself at all

the events and several more I didn't mention. I know that in a year I will be able to eat normally, of course small portions, at these types of events. Right now I'm just so focused on the process of losing this weight. Hang in there. Before you know it, you will be able to partake of small portions of the family meals. Best.

[JCP 619]

You will not feel this way forever. My appetite is gone. food is fuel. It is taking getting used to but it is so freeing. Maybe someday I will enjoy my comfort foods again in small portions. But right now I have no desire.

[bikiniin2015 14]

Nothing will ever taste as good as skinny is going feel Is going to be my motto

[auntiemel 275]

I felt that way before surgery, thinking how I'll never be able to eat the same again. I am now modifying foods I like. I made wonton wrapper pizza so I get my pizza fix. One of them topped with pizza sauce, mozzerella, Parmesan and turkey pepperoni is filling for me.

I haven't made any regular meals since surgery, but I hope to get back to cooking soon.

I have had turkey taco meat with just a tiny bit of shredded lettuce and cheese on them. To get crunch I smashed up two tortilla chips on top.

You will still be able to eat what you like, but in smaller quantities. I have lost 26 pounds since surgery and already feel the difference, not to mention I've had my pants fall off a few times.

The smaller we become the less calories we need to sustain our bodies. Eating smaller amounts will soon become a regular part of our lives.

Don't deprive yourself, just take a bite or two and move on.

[abordenster 43]

It is so depressing the liquid diet. I remember those weeks. Looking at the progressive stages from liquid to soft and thinking really 4 weeks? The sleeve is so grumbly until it heals. It will be a few months to heal. I fussed a lot in the beginning but now I eat a lot of yogurt and two shakes a day. The other meals I eat with my students then family I choose the good stuff Protein fruit veggies. A carb only if it is insanely worth it. Sugar never is worth it. I'm 10 months out:)

[jstrong630 51]

Im 2 weeks out too and have been feeling depressed as well. I'm hoping its a passing feeling but I feel your pain. I just want to fast forward a few weeks or rewind a few weeks and never have gotten the surgery, even though I know it was the right choice. I feel stuck in limbo at this stage.

[BellaLuce4 261]

Go to the Gastric Sleeve Success section and take a look at some of the before and after pics , then get back to us!

That's what I do if I get an urge or frustrated. This method is working great for me????????????

Good luck????

[tandi04 8]

Im 2 weeks out too and have been feeling depressed as well. I'm hoping its a passing feeling but I feel your pain. I just want to fast forward a few weeks or rewind a few weeks and never have gotten the surgery, even though I know it was the right choice. I feel stuck in limbo at this stage.

I'm with you 100%! I just want to fast forward!