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I was banded August 2013 1 month after the surgery I was pregnant.my lap band was un field at that time. I just finished breastfeeding and the baby is 4 months old.I had 3 fills so far and was up to 4 cc for over a month with little restriction. All of the sudden I ended up in the er. My bad out of nowhere was so tight that I was choking and throwing up my own saliva. Dr at the er took out my whole Fluid. Now I am over a year and a half later.....back at square one...its so depressing. My next fill is scheduled oct. 30...most likely 1 cc....I feel fat and even though I have my band I still dont see myself skinny. Any positive thoughts?

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Wish I could help but I feel as though the lap band hasn't worked for me. I had fills and unfills many times in the past 5 years but I still never got to the point where I felt in control with the band. I am looking into removing it and going with the sleeve if insurance and I can find a doctor to do surgery. Good luck

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Your ER experience sounds more like a stuck episode and you panicked? Getting food stuck in our stoma can be very frightening and painful. It also creates lots of saliva/phlegm in our esophagus.

When you get your fill come back and let us support you? There are satiety signals we look for and they're very subtle. Good luck.

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It will take forever to fill me back up again. :-( no....mom of 4 does not panic. I was like that for 3 days thinking it will go away. I also did not wanna go to the er knowing that he will take everything out...but at the end I jad to go. It turned out as my kids were sick from everything I caught something from them. He said when a person has a cold the stomach is somethimes inflamed and the band gets tighter. Also when you are dehydrated, which I was things also happen in your stomach. I was both. I just feel lost. When I first had my surgery I was into it. Now I cant even get a Protein Shake in my day. This is a place to went. Thank you for listening.

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Forever?? Me thinks you're being a little over-dramatic here. All kinds of clichés come to mind. Every journey starts with a first step! Ask for your limitations and they're yours! You'll always have the chance to give up, why do it now?

This is no different than anyone else's journey as they begin. You just have to begin again. I've seen hundreds of people who fell off the bandwagon and climbed back on to find success or lose enough weight to make it all worthwhile. No reason you can't do the same.

And, it took me 6 fills and 7 months to fill my band to the green zone. Not forever, just long enough for me to understand how this thing works. Good luck.

tmf

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All the beginnings are difficult. In your case you have to postpone the beginning of your journey to have a beautiful baby. after a year I still got stock I am in my green zone now and I get stock and vomit when I eat something that is not goof for me.. i believe each one of us had to find the perfect point to fill comfortable with the band. Take it little by little, small steps and you will see how pounds start coming off. Be positive, negativity will cause stress and stress anxiety, this is not a diet you are training for your new way of life.

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Never give up. We worked too hard for our surgeries. I'm sorry you had these obstacles but please don't give up on yourself. Good luck.

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Thank you guys! I jist felt better by writing it out! My husband does not understand "the band" thing and I have nobady to talk to. I will start getting my fills again ...I just feel like I forgot how to eat....I will re visit the nutritionist... thank you!

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