Louisa Latela 226 Posted October 13, 2014 Often when we are trying to change a long standing behavior that no longer serves our Highest Good we are really hard on ourselves if we don't do it fast enough or "perfectly enough." We think that by giving ourselves a good stern lecture and punishing ourselves when we "mess up" we will be more likely to change. You say things like "That's the last piece of candy I'll ever eat...I need to exercise 10 hours today to make up for my messing up yesterday. I know better I should do better. I must be an idiot. I don't deserve to succeed for being so stupid. I'm disgusted with myself, etc." This actually helps to perpetuate the "messed up" behavior instead of diminishing it. When you are struggling to change a behavior of which you desperately want to be free (i.e. compulsive eating, chronic care-taking, gossiping, smoking, gambling, drinking, disorganization, etc), you need an emotional hug, not a beating. When you love yourself through the rough moments your heart softens, anxieties dissipate, and your struggle is transmuted into acceptance and growth. You give yourself the space and freedom to breathe and feel and be. It is from this place that you connect with your authentic self; the Divine. It is from this place that you receive the inspiration and guidance and make manifest your grandest dreams! Affirmations: I am perfect in this moment! I love myself unconditionally! I say only kind and loving things to and about myself! I always 'show up for me' when I am struggling to change... AND When I really 'show up for me' I no longer feel like I am "struggling"! Live in Love! Louisa Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lifeafterfluff 0 Posted October 13, 2014 Thank you so much! This really made my day... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mac 6,262 Posted October 14, 2014 Well, here I am thinking when I ought to be sleeping. I have been beating myself up all day because I had yet another week (ten in a row now) with no movement on the scale. What a revolting development this is! Your post has kindly reminded me that I need to love and accept myself. Thanks Share this post Link to post Share on other sites