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Often when we are trying to change a long standing behavior that no longer serves our Highest Good we are really hard on ourselves if we don't do it fast enough or "perfectly enough." We think that by giving ourselves a good stern lecture and punishing ourselves when we "mess up" we will be more likely to change.



You say things like "That's the last piece of candy I'll ever eat...I need to

exercise 10 hours today to make up for my messing up yesterday. I know better

I should do better. I must be an idiot. I don't deserve to succeed

for being so stupid. I'm disgusted with myself, etc."

This actually helps to perpetuate the "messed up" behavior instead

of diminishing it.

When you are struggling to change a behavior of which you

desperately want to be free (i.e. compulsive eating, chronic

care-taking, gossiping, smoking, gambling, drinking,

disorganization, etc), you need an emotional hug, not a beating.

When you love yourself through the rough moments your heart

softens, anxieties dissipate, and your struggle is transmuted into

acceptance and growth. You give yourself the space and freedom to

breathe and feel and be. It is from this place that you connect

with your authentic self; the Divine. It is from this place that you receive the inspiration and guidance and make manifest your grandest dreams!

Affirmations:

I am perfect in this moment!

I love myself unconditionally!

I say only kind and loving things to and about myself!

I always 'show up for me' when I am struggling to change...

AND

When I really 'show up for me' I no longer feel like I am "struggling"!

Live in Love!

Louisa

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Thank you so much! This really made my day...

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Well, here I am thinking when I ought to be sleeping. I have been beating myself up all day because I had yet another week (ten in a row now) with no movement on the scale. What a revolting development this is!

Your post has kindly reminded me that I need to love and accept myself. Thanks

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