Hubby worried I won't love him

[ma3 7]

My sweet hubby of 32 years is more than supportive in my journey. My surgery is scheduled for October 27th. The other night he said to me, "I hope you still love me when you're all skinny". He's overweight but not obese and I still think he's the sexiest man alive.

Anybody else's spouse express this concern? I assured him that he is my life and that I will always love him. How did you reasure your honey?

[*Lexie* 1,486]

My husband said something similar. He's a wonderful guy that spoils me rotten. I just told him that I'm way too lazy to train a new guy so he's safe. We sometimes use humor to express ourselves.

But, I have made sure to tell him more often how much I appreciate him. I think that helps a lot.

[Rovobay 920]

lots of research on the subject and reports on divorce rates. sounds like there is lots of love in that relationship! best of luck to you.

[Melitta 19]

My husband who is much smaller than me expressed the same concerns. He also spoils me rotten. I told him I love him so much and leaving him is never an option.

[JamieLogical 8,708]

My husband is my main motivation for losing weight. When we met 13 years ago, I weighed 165 pounds. That's what he fell in love with. I have always carried a horrible sense of guilt about my ballooning weight, feeling like I've cheated him out of something. He has NEVER EVER expressed that concern to me. He definitely loves me no matter what my size. But I just really want to be the woman he fell in love with, because he deserves that. He's so amazing in every way and I want to reward him for having stuck with me through all my ups and downs.

Also, we don't have kids or anything. We are each other's world. If anything were to happen to me health-wise because of my weight, he would be devastated and lost. My sister-in-law died of a pulmonary embolism (most likely due too her weight) at the age of 41 and my brother was completely devastated. My whole family was completely devastated. I don't want my husband to ever have to go through anything like that. And I don't want the rest of my family to either!

Edited October 10, 2014 by JamieLogical

[ma3 7]

Thank you all! My hubby and I dated all through highschool and married 3 days after we graduated. I can't imagine life without him. He spoils me rotten and I'm so very thankful that he loves me for me. But I too feel guilty as I am nearly twice the size as the person he married and I have the comorbitities to go along with that issue.

I don't EVER want him to worry about me not loving him. We joke around alot also and I do believe that I have said something to effect of me not willing to train a new guy. LOL

[Thinkingthinner1109 485]

My husband also seems to be a bit insecure. I tell him all the time he is the best thing that ever happened to me. We met later in life after we had both been divorced and I had been in two violent relationships. I have always told him how good he is to me and he also spoils me rotten. I would never leave him and re assure him all the time. I try to put myself in his shoes and I may feel the same way so I am very sympathic to his feelings and concerns. But I may use the "I don't want to train a new man line as a joke"

[S(he) be(lie)ve(d) 151]

I've told my hubby several time over the years that since I have 17 years of training put into him, why in the world would I want to start over with a new one. Besides that I think he's pretty darn spicy!!!! <3

[auntjanny 289]

I had to ask my husband "who in the world other than you could stand me?"

Dead silence. He appeared to agree and feels much more secure!