You have got to be kidding me

Bensmum1109 · May 9, 2007

So... as some of you know I just started a new job as the Sales Manager for a Mortgage Company. As MOST of you know, for a number of reasons I have chosen to be a closet bandster. Only my immediate family knows I have the band.

So today I am at my office to meet the Sales Manager for the nearest office to mine, about 45 miles away. She and I split part of our territory and will be working very closely together. She and I also have a number of mutual friends/colleagues because the mortgage community is a very small world (six degrees of separation? HAH! In our business it's usually about two).

I heard her tell my Branch Manager that she was down 86 pounds to date and she was feeling really great. My response of course was "Wow!! That's wonderful! How in the world did you do it?" Her response? "SURGERY"

She had the VG and is thrilled with the results and the procedure. I totally admire her bravery in just spilling her guts and honestly admitting what she had done.

Here's the thing- I am not that brave and I prefer to remain a closeted WLS patient. We are all entitled to that choice, right? I only met this woman today and although I like her very much, I have no idea whether or not she would keep this quiet if I told her I have a band.

BUT THEN I FIND OUT WE HAVE THE SAME SURGEON. HOW GREAT IS THAT:nervous I just know that one of these days I am going to walk into that office and she will be sitting there, or vice versa.

Thoughts on this dilemna, anyone?

Debbydo · May 9, 2007

I think in this case an omission is not a lie and if you run into her in the MD office then address it then.

I also think if this will create anxeity for you, mention to the secretary when making an appoint that she check the schedule for her name and you are not on the same day.

With a new relationship and ten pounds to go - who needs to know.

Good Luck

Debby

ragdollx19 · May 9, 2007

Obviously you are not ready to share with others about your surgery yet, and that is fine its a personal choice. Just remain open minded and maybe as you get to know this woman better you will feel like telling her or you will find she is a total flake and be happy you didnt. Either way that is pretty neat