Telling

[jgj 29]

I have gone back to work after the summer break and people are shocked at how much weight I have lost. I have been honest with the people I work with and told them I had surgery. I have noted a complete difference in how some people react. Some are so supportive and some openly sneer. It is so frustrating that some people think obesity is just a matter of eating better and getting exercise. It is not. I am not a stupid person and if it was that easy I wouldn't have gotten obese in the first place. I wish there was more education and research on obesity and it wasn't a blame game. Thanks for the rant.

[AvaFern 3,516]

I hear you. I only told my three best friends about the surgery because I had a feeling that the majority of people would say I had taken the easy way out and have a rude opinion on the matter. I just didn't want to deal with the judgements, so I kept it to myself. I also told very few people that I had plastics and no one has noticed anything different from before I had my plastic work done. To be fair, it was a whole lot easier to lose weight having the sleeve than it ever was losing when I did it naturally, but realistically, for the rest of my life I am going to get sick if I eat sugar or fats, start puking if I eat just one bite too much of food, and I can never again have a pity party with a giant bowl of ice cream and brownies. Sure it was easier to lose weight, but the tradeoffs are something that I doubt any person who has never struggled with obesity would voluntarily commit to.

[finediva 979]

I have told no one and don't ever plan to. I have a good friend who I would of loved to share it with. But as my wise mom used to say " her mouth can't hold water". I don't think she would tell other in a malicious way to hurt me, but her nature would be to tell............everyone! Am I ashamed about having the surgery? Not at all. I just don't want to be watched, questioned and endure the negative nellies. This is my journey and I really don't see how it's anyone's business. BTW, no, I don't need the SUPPORT. I'm a big girl, I got me....oh, and I have BP, lol.