2 days before sugery and feeling conflicted

[Jazzyring1 19]

That is what is so hard. I feel like I am being selfish by going thru with the surgery and I have felt guilty for even wanting it from day one BUT I feel like I NEED it. I have 2 littles at home (3 1/2 yr & 20 months) and I want to be there for them as the healthy fun mom, not the fat tired one. The fatter I got the more co dependant I became/ am. I am insanely afraid of failing at this and now am worried that I will fail it like I do every other diet and even my marriage. Wish I would have enrolled in counceling BEFORE this happened. Then maybe I wouldn't be so afraid of it.

I understand your feeling of being selfish. Let me say this my biggest fear is having this surgery and changing. But then I thought about it and I deserve every opportunity to expand my life span. I have 3 kids to think about and one is a toddler. I want to be there for them. I have become the mom that delegates work to the kids as I sit on the couch because I'm too tired and fat to help clean up. I don't want to be that person. I want to be able to get the rides with them at the amusement park. I want to be able to keep up with my 19 month old son. So you deserve this just as much as everyone in here do. You're not being selfish by doing the surgery. You will be cheating yourself out on happiness and being a great mom to your kids. So do it for them. Most importantly do it for you. Life is to short not to take advantage of any good opportunity. (Sorry long response)

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Hey, Idaho. Glad to hear you're getting better every day. That's exactly how recovery works.

On my surgery day, I weighed 216, and here are my first seven weeks weekly weight losses:

4.2
2.6
2.4
1.2
3.8
2.0
1.2

I will probably be down 2.5 pounds for Week 8 (this coming Monday).

Edited October 12, 2014 by VSGAnn2014

[Mayaresearchmom 104]

@@Idahospud

I had bypass, so I am not sure about the sleeve. I have lost an average of 4 lbs a week since surgery. Some weeks it may be more, and twice I have not lost anything for almost 2 weeks, then dropped a lot the next week. Just follow the plan that your doctor and NUT have set up for you and you will do fine. LOL,must don't get on that scale for often than once a week. I'm proud of what you have accomplished so far. Your doing great.

[Idahospud 102]

Thank you all so much for your kind words and encouragement! I can truly say it has been a tremendous help in my journey so far. Each day gets easier with the divorce underway and my new life ahead of me. I cannot wait to see what the future holds for me and my precious baby boys!!!!

[Mayaresearchmom 104]

@@Idahospud

You've been quiet on here, so I'm doing my weekly check on you. Hope you are doing well. How are those baby boys? In no time at all you will be chasing them around.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

It sounds to me like he is scared and manipulative.

Take care of yourself .

[Elode 8,093]

I say call his bluff!!! You do what's right for you. Your husband is suppose to support his wife just as you would support him. Chances are he's just scared,regardless this is your life, your body, and your health! You know in your heart what's best for you go with that and let the chips fall where they may!