plastic surgeon. Just going to say it!

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

Omg I just had a memory come back reading this thread. I was about seven or eight years old and I was super stressed out with stomach aches and threw up in the mornings. The doctor looked at my chubby self and said, "you don't look like a person who can't keep anything down." I was old enough to know I had been fat shamed and I didn't want to go to the doctor after that. Saddest thing is that I was probably reacting to emotional problems and bullying, but the result was I wasn't permitted to eat peanuts or popcorn for many years. I still had stomach aches and nausea though. It felt like I had been punished for going to the doctor.

I was in a lot of pain as well when I was a child. I could not sleep and I always had stomach problems. The Doctor told my mother that I was probably the youngest person he ever saw with bad nerves. That was not the issue. We were starving to death. We never had food. We got food from people on the streets and begged for it. A neighbor used to throw stale Cookies over the fence for us and we would gobble them down. The pain and worry was hunger and where were we going to get food for the next day. All my siblings have stomach problems.

Later my mother remarried and there was finally food on the table. And so none of us knew how to eat in balance. We were still in the way of the lion. Eat until you are stuffed and then there would be a hunger period. But the hunger period was no longer an issue. We never caught on to it we still hid food under our beds and horded it. It was horrible.

The lack of food was replaced by other more dangerous situations. Hence why I got obese. I can say it now and feel okay about it. My childhood was what made me strong. Now I fight my demons one at a time and I will fight obesity as well.

Hope I didn't say too much here. Sometimes more is not good!

Edited September 30, 2014 by RJ'S/beginning

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

RJ, thanks for keeping it real. You help me more than you will ever know.

[HumanMerelyBeing 287]

I feel your pain. Overcoming the feeling of being gross or abnormal is common to many of us.

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this and I have always appreciated your presence on the board.

Though I don't know you personally, I have taken a few moments today to truly lift you up in prayer...that you would be surrounded by the right care givers, that your journey will be positive and that you would have the healing inside and out that we all need.

[playlikeworldchamps 595]

Omg I just had a memory come back reading this thread. I was about seven or eight years old and I was super stressed out with stomach aches and threw up in the mornings. The doctor looked at my chubby self and said, "you don't look like a person who can't keep anything down." I was old enough to know I had been fat shamed and I didn't want to go to the doctor after that. Saddest thing is that I was probably reacting to emotional problems and bullying, but the result was I wasn't permitted to eat peanuts or popcorn for many years. I still had stomach aches and nausea though. It felt like I had been punished for going to the doctor.

I had a similar experience in high school. Scheduling classes I noticed I would not have a lunch period. The guidance counselor said " well you look like you can make it without a lunch" I was 16 years old and what would be about a 26 BMI and she fat shamed me. I already thought I was huge compared to my petite friends now she backed up my beliefs. There is a warm place in hell reserved for people who are supposed to help us who instead knock us down. And they do it because they need to bring others down to keep themselves feeling superior most of the time. 32 years ago and I still remember that. b***h.

Edited September 30, 2014 by playlikeworldchamps

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

You never forget these episodes @@playlikeworldchamps It is hard to get past them and move on to a new life. their faces are always there saying the hurtful words.

But you are doing it. Your almost to your goal. Kicking Ass is a good feeling and it helps when you can tell them in your head to stick it where the sun don't shine! Good for you kid!

[BladeFox 235]

Here lies the problem. Unfortunately, you are taking the brunt of a broken system. The insurance companies know that after weight loss there will be a need for plastics. I mean who wants to lose the weight to get in better health, but then have to look at the skin everyday for rest of our lives? They knew it would happen, yet they are resistant in covering the procedure. So maybe it's not a full body lift, but just cover removing the skin for ALL WLS patients. Possibly, write into the coverage skin removal from the abdomen, thighs, and arms and nothing else - not a lift, just removal.

It's like it's some kind of Jedi Mind Trick or something

[Jersrose43 837]

I had my nose done a few years ago. Almost all the plastic surgeons I met were wonderful. I talked to them about what I wanted and asked to see pictures of past work.

Amazing how many of them have spent time giving of their skills and time in areas of the world to repair genetic and birth defects.

The one I ultimately chose travels 4 times a year to various locales doing hair lip fixes to children.

The stark contrast between dr m and this son of a female dog is amazing and incomprehensible to me.

Don't get me wrong all the plastics guys I met in NYC were ultra diva and think they're God but they also have a give back/humble side.

At no time was I treated like this. And I wasn't a Middle Aged suburban cutey mommy. I was obese and wanting a bump removed. And maybe a boob lift. He told me to lose 50 pounds and come back to talk to him. Ok. Done.

You need to also report to whatever medical board you have up there that deals with the appropriate and ethical treatment of patients.

Hugs from New Jersey babe!

[vincereautmori 323]

You never forget these episodes @@playlikeworldchamps It is hard to get past them and move on to a new life. their faces are always there saying the hurtful words.

But you are doing it. Your almost to your goal. Kicking Ass is a good feeling and it helps when you can tell them in your head to stick it where the sun don't shine! Good for you kid!

I hope you can take a step back and look at how you counsel others, be a little kinder to yourself. So the plastic surgeon was a pompous ass, his problem, he can't insult you any longer unless you let him. Even though I'm a man, I had an incident years ago with a dentist, what has bothered me to this day is that I let him get away with it instead of either telling him off or punching him in the nose. I don't know you but you seem to have lived through some personal challenges, you have tackled your health and your weight (you lost over 200 lbs.!), and you're still here standing. So I think you can handle some snot nosed punk with a MD after his name. Time to put the tissues away and tackle this like you have every other challenge in your life, I'm confident we'll be reading about your sucessful solution soon.