What makes you say "feck 'em"?

[PuraVida37 715]

I am glad I didn't tell anyone at work--they are such judgmental ignoramuses sometimes!! My bestie at work wouldn't even understand. She can't understand my unexplained weight loss to begin with, and seems very jealous of it. I don't care.

To the original poster, I would confront the gossipy person and make them feel like the heel that s/he is!! Just be honest and say calmly, "You know, I heard about what you said and it really wasn't very nice. Why would you say something so cruel?" and then sit back and watch her/him squirm!!!!!!!!! hahahah

[letsgetshrunk 9]

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who kept my was a secret. My husband is the only one who knows and although he respected my wishes and told no one he thought my wanting to keep it secret was silly and strange that I was being a weirdo about it. Honestly, it was no one else's business. No pressure to fail or succeed, not being put under a microscope on my journey. It's about me no one else.

[Beni 1,484]

Hi letsgetshrunk,

Gastric Bypass is hard, the: decision, pre-op stuff, surgery and recovery not to mention managing living with a medical condition for life. We will always be a "Bariatric Patient." That's a lot to deal with. My basket is full and I don't need mental games with other people. Not now!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

@@lisacaron ... that was fun to read . Thanks.

[npurdy6 17]

Wow! I work with someone that just loves running in another room to talk about me. She is the biggest back stabber. It's really quite sad for them. People act like they like her but say terrible things about her. The girl I know only has friends face to face but behind her back no one likes her. It's people like that I just want to just act like they don't exist. I am courteous because we have to work together. I can only say she must live a sad life at home with her husband. you guys are right who's next for the gossip chopping block. I just want to stay around positive people. I think she is waiting for me to come back to work to say thats all she lost blah blah blah. Lol I know I am loved and happy on the inside, this girl apparently is not.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I love it when people talk about me for several reasons.

First and foremost, I am totally an "attention wh*re". I'd much rather be noticed than ignored.

Second, if you are spending your time talking about ME, I am saving someone else from your venom. I've got on (tiny) big girl panties. I can totally take it.

Nothing makes me happier than when someone tells me someone is wagging their tongue about me, positive or negative. It says a lot more about the person talking than it does about me, no doubt about it.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

There are indeed some unhappy people in this world.

And there are some unfortunately not very bright people in this world.

Truth is, you can't do much to help either group.

So why let them take up so much space in your head?

[lisacaron 5,075]

There are indeed some unhappy people in this world.

And there are some unfortunately not very bright people in this world.

Truth is, you can't do much to help either group.

So why let them take up so much space in your head?

So true the only thing we have control over is ourselves and our reactions to these people.

It's not so easy to not let their words hurt us, but if we can remember that their words say more about them they do about us we can lessen the affects of their words.

What must people think about the girl that gossips...or the man that makes everyone feel stupid? As someone wrote here people don't like them at all, and are just faking it around them out of courtesy in the work place.

Those people are seriously not happy in their lives, and it's not our job to make them happy or be their punching bags. So when I have to, I will let them know that they have crossed a line. Common courtesy is deserved by all, and trust me people in higher positions that know about these consummate naysayers and gossips take those traits into consideration when it comes times for reviews and promotions.

Karma my friends...I love it!

[1kneeboots 5]

I had a fellow "dance mom" ask me "oh did you start another diet? Of course she couldn't of said wow you look good or anything kind! It's just easier for people to be mean!

[Selina1000 17]

@ Beni,

I know what you mean about not telling anyone. At the time of my surgery, only 5 people knew, one was a women I work with who went through the surgery, and suggested I look into it. Another was a coworker who badgered me about it because she had spoken with my other coworker, and is now going through the process. I had to let them know a few times that I wanted to keep it private (tough to do at work, as I work with 3 relatives), My roommate knew, as she was to help take care of me. The person who drove me to my upper GI & surgery, and my chiropractor knew. I wanted to keep it that way, just in case I was not approved, because I didn't want to hear poor poor pity party speeches. After surgery, my relatives were/are a bit miffed, but I just said that It was my decision and I wanted to keep it personnel. Good Luck and see you on the other side.

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

I can't imagine anyone being that mean about you Indigo Your so dam cute! I would not call her an acquaintance anymore if I were you hun! She is a freaking stranger! Treat her as such, the b***h.

[Beni 1,484]

Thank you Selina1000, How are you feeling?

For now, I stand by my decision to keep it private. And, I can't wait to get to the other side.

Surprising, I feel amazingly secure in my decision of having the Bypass. Perhaps, the butterflies will come later as I have 33 days until surgery. For the first time in a long time, I have hope and strangely enough I feel happier then I have in a very long time. I am at peace and I cannot tell you how awesome that feels.

[Indigo1991 1,612]

Thanks RJ, you're not so bad yourself

Strange thing is that the longer I have been at my goal weight, the less I care about any bitchy comments. But reality is, they are few and far between. Most people now seem comfortable and accepting of what I look like and what I weigh... Which is great. Because initially, it was all people wanted to talk about!

Being happy with myself seems to have given me a waterproof coating where cr*p just slides of me!!!

[Selina1000 17]

@ Beni,

I had the sleeve done, as I just couldn't think of my extra piece of stomach "floating" around in my tummy. I'm also not the best at taking my Vitamins, and found that there is a higher chance of becoming enemic with the bypass.

I have found that it was easier to tell someone that I had the surgery done, after the actual surgery. I can't express how impressed I was with my "team" of people to help me. They left no question unanswered. I too was calm through the whole process, I started with a seminar in May and finally had surgery on Sept 10, 2014. I did get a bit nervous as my surgery time (noon) came and went, The procedure before mine took longer than scheduled. I saw 1:50 go by, and then nothing until I woke up in my room.

As of right now, I was trying to eat some tuna fish mixed with mayo, got a couple of bites down, and for now, no more. Last night I had the same thing and went down fine.

It's a "cr*p shoot" on what will work, and what won't. One thing I learned the hard way, even I you think you need to pass gas.... Go to the bathroom!! This I learned within the first 10 days.

[HotButterFly 981]

That's it, thank you, I have decided. I am not telling anyone about my surgery. This is my journey and I don't think I could handle those comments.

Only my husband knows and that's because someone has to pick me up from the hospital, LOL. I did wonder if the hospital would release me to a taxi driver. But then I came to my senses - Somebody has to know, just in case.

You crack me up!!