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So after 4 months of jumping through hoops for the insurance company, here I am 3 days away from surgery. The excitement has been shadowed by the nervousness of the situation. I started this journey not as much for me, but for my kids. After recently becoming a father again after 11 years, I worried about being around for those milestones in their lives. My wife loves me no matter how I look. Which from some of the stories I read on here is already a plus. But she like a lot of women has her insecurities. Her main worry is that I will lose all my wait and not want her anymore. And no matter how much I try to comfort her with this, it doesn't seem to get anywhere. And trust me! With this being my second marriage, I have no intentions of going through that hell again.

Some of the other things that come to mind when I think about this process is pain and or discomfort. While I have a pretty large pain threshold, prolonged discomfort is not far from my mind. I read story after story on here about problems with the band, usually through slippage. My surgeon is performing some new technique on me where they add a suture to hold the band in place. Supposedly from the study they did, it pretty much eliminates the possibility of slippage. So of course I agreed to the add on to my procedure.

Before these last four months of fun, I hadn't seen a doctor in over 10 years. So I was relieved when my blood work came back stating other than my weight, I was healthy. At 438 pounds, I do believe that I dodged a few major bullets there. Especially since my family has a messy history with diabetes. LOL, reading back through this post, I now realize that I am all over the place. Funny how your mind wonders when you are nervous. Anyhow, if anyone has any words of inspiration, I am all ears at this point. Kind of tired reading the negative posts.

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Good luck to you as you begin your weight loss journey! See you on the other side!

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Congratulations on choosing your health and on your upcoming surgery. I remember how excited and nervous I was beforehand. Now I can hardly recall all of that because I'm just so happy to be where I am now. And it wasn't hard -- it's not that this is easy or the easy way out, but my life got so much easier and it has not been a struggle for me. Good luck to you. And your wife. We had to work out a little insecurity of my husband's -- that I would get healthy and run off with the circus or something. Um, no. But now he's my biggest supporter. She will be yours.

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Good luck...... I'm newly banded and It's the best thing I have done!

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Congrats! I totally understand where you are coming from. I was excited and nervous all at the same time. I told my sister-friend, while in the pre-op area, that I wanted to go home. I wanted to run. And then they wheeled me back to the OR. I even said at one point in the OR, I can still get up and leave. Then I fell asleep. I woke up a different person and I haven't looked back with a single regret. Not much about this has been easy, but it hasn't been as hard as I thought it would be. I have been banded a year now...and my life is totally different. But, my friends are still my friends. My family is still my family. I may have changed on the outside, and some on the inside, but I am still me. I am just happier and healthier now. That said, my friends had to make some adjustments...I was always the "Fat Friend" and now I am not :) So, I get attention now when I used to go unnoticed. BUT...they are enjoying my dating adventures and the stories that come with them...LOL. You are going to do great....

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The biggest pain was gas. Getting up and walking cured most problems. Follow the instructions and all will be well. 5 weeks post op and feeling great here

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2days for me....still feeling rough, but drinking and getting around....no gas pain yet.....feels like I overdid the sit-ups that's about it...... Lol. ..I am off the pain meds and on full fluids yay!!!!

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