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[kissez 9]

@"amw713".... Congratulations on your new journey for a new year and a new you .Think positive, do as your doctor said and don't be too hard on yourself.

[tomi71 581]

Good luck! Best wishes and congrats! ☺️

[tomi71 581]

My surgery went awful. I lost so blood that i had to get admitted to the hospital. I kept passing out and busting my head so ive had a blood transfusion so far. Been in this hospital for abt three days now

I am sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts. Keep your chin up and take care of yourself!

[arevA31 4]

Newly sleeved on December 30th. Praying for a successful weight loss journey.

[Dee951 28]

The more I read I notice most people back to exercise within 3 weeks. What about sex?

[Dee951 28]

@@arevA31 congrats!!!!!

[hdd55146 29]

The more I read I notice most people back to exercise within 3 weeks. What about sex?

My surgeon said I could resume sexual relations as soon as I felt up to it. He suggested being mindful of the positions I chose so I did not put pressure on my healing stomach.

[Peekboo 472]

I was given the same instructions about sex but I wasn't up to it for about 3 weeks because I was so so exhausted.

[arevA31 4]

@@arevA31 congrats!!!!!

Thank you. I have some moments of second guessing myself, but I am losing weight. The soreness is what had me doubting decision. It is getting better each day.

[kissez 9]

Hello and Happy New Year Everyone,

Hope everyone is doing well so far this year.

[rfriend82 16]

Let me start by saying not many ppl know about my upcoming surgery, only family and close friends. Today someone I considered to be a close friend said to me "I hope you don't die on the table", during a brief conversation we had relating to my surgery. I was shocked, upset and just plan blown away. I am thinking that was crazy for her to say. Am I just being overly sensitive or was that extremely inconsiderate of my feelings?

[Peekboo 472]

Rfriends, I am sorry that person said that to you. I heRd the same sort of thing myself before surgery. People kept telling me horror stories about weight loss surgery. Well I didnt listen to them. I am doing just fine. You will do great.

[rfriend82 16]

Thanks for the encouragement. NUT said relations with food and ppl would change during this process, but I never thought it would be her. She was all for me when I started this 6 months, now that my date set, she is really changing. Making comments like "your gonna be too skinny', "guys like girls with meat on their bones", etc. I think it's time for me to distance myself asap.

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

Let me start by saying not many ppl know about my upcoming surgery, only family and close friends. Today someone I considered to be a close friend said to me "I hope you don't die on the table", during a brief conversation we had relating to my surgery. I was shocked, upset and just plan blown away. I am thinking that was crazy for her to say. Am I just being overly sensitive or was that extremely inconsiderate of my feelings?

That was rude and inconsiderate. Even if they felt that way, why would you say that out loud to someone getting ready to have surgery? Did they think that would help with any pre-surgery jitters? Sheesh! Some people really do not think. I am sorry you experienced that. Please know the mortality rate is relatively low. Try comparing that to the mortality rate from complications due to the various co-morbidities that come with being morbidly obese.

You will be fine. It's a quick and easy surgery that will change your life for the better.

[twinmommiesrock 72]

Thanks for the encouragement. NUT said relations with food and ppl would change during this process, but I never thought it would be her. She was all for me when I started this 6 months, now that my date set, she is really changing. Making comments like "your gonna be too skinny', "guys like girls with meat on their bones", etc. I think it's time for me to distance myself asap.

Yes it may be time to reevaluate some relationships. I'm doing the same thing I am almost 5 months out and I'm getting a few "too skinny to have around their men" comments. Of course it's only folks who never knew me as skinny so now I know they only kept me around to make themselves feel better. I don't have time to help anyone with self-esteem issues. They can keep it moving. You don't need the extra stress or negativity especially while your trying to better yourself. Good luck and God bless