female only missed opportunity..dang it!

[CowgirlJane 14,260]

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[CowgirlJane 14,260]

My kindle isn't getting along with the site today...trying again.

I went on a work sponsored "day of caring" volunteer work. We did HARD physical labor restoring habitat. One of the experts/leaders of clueless volunteers was HOT. Totally my type physically and I really liked how he interacted with people. Age appropriate too.

So I am very conservative in work related settings. He was coordinating volunteers so I guess has similar"limits". We clicked though and worked side by side alot of the day because I am a tough cowgirl and not afraid to sweat. I think he liked me too, but, it didn't seem appropriate to ask for his number and he didn't ask for mine. He came over after the event and talked to me about my car too. No wedding ring but who knows?

This is how I want to meet someone though. I HATE online dating. I really can't handle the idea of meeting someone in a bar.

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This isn't the first time I met someone interesting (on the trail or out doing something active) and I just didn't know how to express interest...and would later realize....that was a NICE guy expressing I interest but I don't know how to give him the right signals. Ya know...I just want them to know I would like to find out more...advice?

Bikerchick said something about a lifetime of avoiding rejection due to obesity. I think I do the same thing n ow. I think it might be interpreted as aloof.

I am told this is also a Seattle thing...guys don't feel like they can ask..outside a bar setting I guess.

Anyway how do you tell someone...ask me out allready?? I realize today's situation was difficult due to the work setting, I mean more in general.

[4me4them 381]

So be bold! If you aren't his "volunteer" anymore look him up see if he wants to get a cup of coffee...You said Seattle right? Don't spend time wondering what if...sometimes it is better to know...either way...

[MistyAnnMoon829 387]

I totally agree, if you were pinging, you should hunt him down and ask him for a coffee or something.

[CowgirlJane 14,260]

Well, other than showing up at

His work I don't know how to find him....that is a bit stalkerish for me!

[woo woo 872]

Many people are on Facebook or linked in nowadays, is there any way you could find him that way?

On the other topic, I think a good low key way to encourage/express interest is to say "I have always wanted to see/do/try that" thing that is mentioned. Easy for him to grab onto and ask you out, but also painless if it's not.

ETA: If you friend him on Linkedin, I think that he would certainly get the hint and make contact if he is single, etc.

Edited September 19, 2014 by woo woo

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Girl, you need to grab yourself by your hot little bootstraps and tell him you'd love to grab a cup of coffee with him. Seriously. It's 2014 and if you don't make a move, you are missing out. The worst that can happen is that he says no and if he says no, he's not worthy of your time anyways.

I'm not telling you to send him flowers or cyber stalk him, just a friendly invite. Find him on FB. Send him a note saying you enjoyed chatting with him and you'd love to do it again over a glass of wine or a cup of coffee. Or you could invite him for a roll in the hay. Your choice.

[Yasman 195]

@@CowgirlJane I totally understand and sympathize (empathize?) with you, especially the part about having big people fears holding you back from putting yourself out there. Good luck to you. Plus, you're a hottie now and he was vibing with you all day so I think you would be ok (not a stalker!) if you found a creative way to look him up. Lots of good ideas here, but to add one more, do the old-school thing and write your number on a piece of paper and find him at work one day and handing it to him and say "I really enjoyed your company the other day." Doing it at his work could be viewed either as "stalkerish" or in my view "natural, because that's where you two met".

Good luck to you and much romance.

[CowgirlJane 14,260]

Ok....ding ding ding. Do you think this was a hint? Part of the program was explaining to us the goals of my the habitat restoration and how we could volunteer again. They mention how there are future events scheduled or if a group wants to schedule something they can. That was part of the big group session. After we were done and he was talking to me individually about my cute lil mini Cooper car he mentioned that volunteer groups can be any size and in fact one dedicated young lady came out a few times and worked by herself with him. He told me to contact the scheduler by email if I was interested (so I do know how to reach her). At the time I was very task focused ... thinking about who I could recruit to do this with me that I missed the possibility that he might have been hinting an appropriate way for me to contact him again. What do you think?

[haleytrim 244]

All very good suggestions. You are one fantastic looking lady. Don't let the old you keep the new you from stepping out there.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Ok....ding ding ding. Do you think this was a hint? Part of the program was explaining to us the goals of my the habitat restoration and how we could volunteer again. They mention how there are future events scheduled or if a group wants to schedule something they can. That was part of the big group session. After we were done and he was talking to me individually about my cute lil mini Cooper car he mentioned that volunteer groups can be any size and in fact one dedicated young lady came out a few times and worked by herself with him. He told me to contact the scheduler by email if I was interested (so I do know how to reach her). At the time I was very task focused ... thinking about who I could recruit to do this with me that I missed the possibility that he might have been hinting an appropriate way for me to contact him again. What do you think?

Duh? Call already...

[Yasman 195]

Duh? Call already...

maybe not how I would say it, but definitely a resounding Motion Seconded! (or, too right? or.. go ahead girl or... what are you waiting for? or... Go To It!)

I think all the time he spent hanging with you during the day and at the end is a big hint. He probably can't ask you directly because HE'S at work. You're not! You don't need to be bound by his workplace rules.

So I say, Cowgirl, Take the Bull by the Horns and give him a call.

Edited September 22, 2014 by Yasman

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Uh, Cowgirl ... uh, yeah!

[feedyoureye 3,087]

Ok....ding ding ding. Do you think this was a hint? Part of the program was explaining to us the goals of my the habitat restoration and how we could volunteer again. They mention how there are future events scheduled or if a group wants to schedule something they can. That was part of the big group session. After we were done and he was talking to me individually about my cute lil mini Cooper car he mentioned that volunteer groups can be any size and in fact one dedicated young lady came out a few times and worked by herself with him. He told me to contact the scheduler by email if I was interested (so I do know how to reach her). At the time I was very task focused ... thinking about who I could recruit to do this with me that I missed the possibility that he might have been hinting an appropriate way for me to contact him again. What do you think?

If you haven't already, do it in the morning. You are a dedicated young lady after all....