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I was in the hospital for two nights. Since I have gotten home my two year old wants nothing to do with me which is breaking my heart. I have never left him besides work, is he old enough to have abandonment feelings?

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I'm not a psychologist and don't have kids so I'm the least qualified person to answer you. However that being said I do remember my mum telling me I went through a very similar thing at that age. I assume by 2 a child is aware enough to feel abandoned. Though please take heart that he is just miffed rather than truly angry. Talk to him and gauge his feelings. Kids at that age will generally talk very freely about their feelings if you get down to their level and show them you genuinely care why they are upset at u. (yes I watch TV (albeit trash) and read a lot of self help books... Sue me Lol *puts glasses on*)

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I was in the hospital for two nights. Since I have gotten home my two year old wants nothing to do with me which is breaking my heart. I have never left him besides work, is he old enough to have abandonment feelings?

Jess I hope all is well today and things with your son are back to normal.

Summer

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I remember when I was 3 (yes, I remember that far back) I was extremely close to my grandfather. Then he was in a fire and was in the hospital. We went to visit him and I wouldn't go near him. I didn't feel abandoned, I was scared. He was hurt and that was really scary to me. I'm not sure if I was afraid to touch him and hurt him, but I remember feeling like the grandfather I knew wasn't hurt, it didn't feel like it was him. Kids that young don't necessarily realize Mommy is the same Mommy, just with a boo boo. To them, Mommy is invincible. Just something to consider. They pick up on emotions and pain very easily. I'm sure he senses you're 'different' right now and it's scary to him. He should get more back to normal as you do.

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