Post Op Blues?

[mellytoon0908 8]

Hi everyone,

I'm new and i just have some questions for everyone. ???? I was sleeved on August 27th 2014 so I'm 10 days. Not gonna lie it feels so much longer. I never was addicted to food but I'm def having some blues regarding having only broth and liquid. Seems like I have nothing to look forward to and I know that sounds so stupid but even healthy people base a lot of activities like beach trips and dates on dinners or lunches and I'm her like well can I have some broth lol I know it's gonna be better and I won't care later on when I'm at goal and I have lost ten lbs. and I'm normally such a positive person but I found myself I tears feeling so restricted? Anyone else feel that way ever ? Plus I have what seems the only doc who keeps you liquids for a whole three weeks after surgery not to mention my two week pre op liquid diet. Reading others were able to at least have yogurt and cottage cheese after a week erks haha

[agirlnamedfrankie 69]

I totally know what you mean. It's kind of a harsh wake-up call realizing how much of my life is focused around eating and how few other non-food activities sound like fun. I'll be fine and then see something like a simple photo on FB of someone having a pizza and beer for dinner and it feels terrible to not be able to just relax into that comfort. It's starting to get a bit better, though, and I can see glimpses of light as I get closer to being able to eat any sort of regular food. But yes, it's so frustrating and I've been way more emotional than usual post-surgery which I hear is common. Looking forward to getting out of that limbo where food can no longer be my comfort but I'm not yet obsessed with exercise or other active stuff.

Oh, and my doc requires 1 week of Clear Liquids and 2 of full liquids post-op so you're not alone there either.

[mellytoon0908 8]

Thank you so much. I was in tears reading your response. You said it, it's feeling seeing others and that dark cloud of am I ever gonna be able to look forward to stuff again. My relationship with food has changed and realization of how much it made things better is really sinking in. I don't even want like a cheeseburger id be stoked for some cottage cheese or a piece of tuna lol thanks so much for your help and feeling not alone

[alyce 61]

Mellytoon.... I totally get it! I was sleeved on August 27 also... Protein drink... Broth... Popsicles..... And I can have plain Greek yogurt! It has not been easy... But I know food is coming. My post op is September 10th and I am hoping at that point she moves me to puree.... Hang in there... Many of us are in the same boat! Alyce

[mellytoon0908 8]

Thanks Alyce, how awesome! Same day sleeved. I haven't seen much of it in the forums so I thought I was alone. Not that I want anyone to be upset just to know it's normal and it will pass. Good luck and can't wait to see us at the end of our journey!! My post op is the 15th and in hoping the same thing

[Tammylb 174]

I think we were all addicted to eating or we wouldn't be in this shape. But I can tell you each day it will get better !! I didn't like broth . It needed more flavor. I love choc premiere shakes ! And Unjury chic Soup. I am now 5 1/2 months post surgery and today fit in a size 12 pants! They were snug but I FIT ! I have had two stalls on the scales but I stuck to the routine Protein first low carbs. I was wearing a 22 pant prior to surgery !!

[Tammylb 174]

And yes u can eat real food! I had a double pattie burger with cheese the other day . I didn't eat the bread and just used a fork . You just eat differently.

[Fluffnomore 1,235]

And depression is pretty common around this point as well. You have lots and lots of hormones racing through you at this point. You may well be emotional, angry at your loved ones, and feel slightly out of control. It will fade.

[Thinkingthinner1109 485]

Mellytoon.... I cried too. I thought what the heck did I do to myself. I second guessed and I still second guess myself. My WHOLE problem was that I love to bake.......and I loved to eat the baked goods. Not just one cookie but 6. Not just one slice of pie but a huge slice of pie and ice cream and I baked everything at least a couple times a week. And if I didn't bake it myself I ordered a cake from the lady who did my wedding cake and would eat that. I am a picky eater, I never ate a McDonald's or Burger King burger because I don't like anything mixed. I have never had Soup or chili or salad, nothing like that. The only thing I liked was meat and potatoes don't like veggies but I can eat fruit. So my problem was the sweets. So I kept thinking to myself, you should have just quit baking and I actually did that on May 31st and lost nearly 60 pounds before surgery. I am depressed and disgusted with myself that I didn't do it on my own. The liquid phase is quite hard for me because I don't like broth either so I am stuck with Protein Shakes which are getting sickening. I am sure it will get better it's just going to take time. And I am hoping once the weight is off I can keep it off. Best of luck to you! I hope things gets better soon.

[Texasmeg 568]

I believe that, as painful as it is, this phase is absolutely necessary to reset our minds. I call it "hitting a wall." It will get better every day and, very likely, you will look back on this process with gratitude.

[mellytoon0908 8]

See that's how I was, not the baking but I wasn't a fast foodie or anything. I wouldn't eat all day but I would Pinterest it up and make these huge fattening dinners and just get down. Cooking is a passion of mine and I feel it's gone cuz what's the point, I def don't get excited watching someone else eat my creation while I sit there with a strawberry shake although I do like feeding people good things. I'm sure it will but it's what we are dealing with now and I'm glad I have people to relate with!! Good luck to you to ????

[Displaced Va Girl 23]

I was sleeved Aug. 28, 2014 and I am sick of shakes, broths, Water, and pain. I'm hungry and want some real food. I know it's only been 10 days but I have licked on a spoon of Greek yogurt and I sneaked an elbow macaroni, chewed it very well and swallowed. Damn it felt good. I won't do it again bc I've come to far to screw up now but I needed to have my moment.

Hang in there, you are not alone.

[CrystalJae 17]

I'm going through a blues period too but not quite the same as you guys. I was sleeved August 18th and lost 20 lbs as of Sunday. Since then the scale has not moved and to be honest I keep having thoughts suggestiog that the surgery won't work and that these 20lbs is the end. I second guess everything I do, if I'm eating too much, drinking too much, exercising enough. I even have dreams about being stuck at this weight. I feel crazy.

[vbm510 15]

Ohhh I feel your pain. I'm 8 days post op and yea. I have told friends on fb to piss off with their food pictures blocked some because I can't deal with it. Maybe when I'm on purée and I can try other things I'll be good but for now....nope.

[blondebomb 580]

It's normal: ) I did it also. My first month I swear I didn't think it would ever pass! First 2 wks was soo hard an difficult. Yes it's emotional, I was hungry an wanted a burger! ! I had to talk myself thru it everyday. .my hubs helped a lot an so this forum..t-shirt an emotional roller coaster. .but when I got to my first wk postop visit I was ecstatic! ! I was on cloud nine bc it was actually wrking for me! I had my doubts I thought this will wrk for others an not me...but my drs all of them reassuring me follow protocol an don't cheat. .cheating diet days were over! It works! I know how frustrating it is. I was on shakes for a month..2 before an 2 later...then I was on soft for 2 then puree for 2 which I ate baby food, an shakes..then 6 wks I added solids slowly. .still would rather do shake for Breakfast. .sometimes for lunch or a bar..but I still don't eat hard foods, no nuts yet..hang in there!! Try an find something to do to make days go by faster. Its worth it! ! Depression is also normal some get affected. .I've had a few crying days but that's about it. At 6 wks I flew to MB with gfs for 5 days..I paced myself. Still do..I get tired. I'm 2 months an 60 down...have gave 90% of clothes away to gf. .feels good! You can do this. The brain plays tricks on us..keep chin up!