Want to throat punch my husband

[Sleeve2bFree~Tlea 23]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I'm 9 days post-op aswell. My husband took time off work to "help and take care of me". He's been with me everyday for 9 days now. If he wasn't going back to work TOMORROW I don't know if he'd make it through the night. The first 4 days he was great. Since then he's steadily trying to push me over the edge. Not only is he pissy but he's eating so much junk. Sadly and embarrassingly I have been weak and sampled some of those foods. A lick here, a lick there, nothing that can hurt me but junk nonetheless. I know he won't eat like this when he goes back to work. He himself is on his own weight loss journey. He's lost over 100 lbs in the last 8 months from diet and exercise. Why does he have to choose now to over indulge? I need his love, support, PATIENCE and understanding in a big way. I feel abandoned and alone. And not only does it make me sad, it really pisses me off. How do you stay positive when your other half is being a moody d*#k?

Sorry this is so long, I've been holding it in.

[BellaLuce4 261]

I get it! Some men are secure in the relationship when their wife's are over weight, at least mine is. Now, at the thought of us being in shape, it scares them a little. Any time I would loose some weight he would COMPLETELY try to sabotage my diet. I don't think on purpose. Hang In there, ur not alone. This is a great forum to vent and know some dysfunctional behaviors are pretty normal... Lol

[honeybunz 139]

On the way home he jokingly said that he was going to go pick up a Big Mac. I told him I would seriously hurt him if he did that. Actually I'd probably just attack the Big Mac. Haha Only 11 more days!!

[Fab@50 2]

I am having surgery on 9/15/14 also. Best of luck and wishing you a speedy recovery.

[Sleeve2bFree~Tlea 23]

I get it! Some men are secure in the relationship when their wife's are over weight, at least mine is. Now, at the thought of us being in shape, it scares them a little. Any time I would loose some weight he would COMPLETELY try to sabotage my diet. I don't think on purpose. Hang In there, ur not alone. This is a great forum to vent and know some dysfunctional behaviors are pretty normal... Lol

Thanks BellaLuce4, you're so right. Although I don't think he's doing it on purpose, he has expressed he's worried I'm going to leave him when I'm thin. Only because he's heard the horror stories of that kind of thing happening and his buddy at work keeps teasing him about it. I would never do that. :wub:I value our vows and have no doubt God put us together. :wub: Besides, if I haven't left him in the 15 yrs we've been married, after all the crap he's put me through then there's no chance I'd leave him now to be with another man. Hilarious! Why would I want to leave him for another sack of issues? :huh:Lol

Funny Men :lol::lol:

[Sleeve2bFree~Tlea 23]

On the way home he jokingly said that he was going to go pick up a Big Mac. I told him I would seriously hurt him if he did that. Actually I'd probably just attack the Big Mac. Haha Only 11 more days!!

Be strong honeybunz, the goal is insight. Each day gets a little easier. They went to one of my favorite restaurants last night for a family birthday. The thought of that food has been making my mouth Water all week. I knew if I went I'd be sticking my tongue on everything. By the time the day to go got here I was able to easily decline and send them on without me. I know after a couple of months I'll be able to attend those get togethers again no problem.

[Mike4132 256]

There is no more dangerous a creature on this earth than a bariatric patient on pre or post op liquids........

[BellaLuce4 261]

There is no more dangerous a creature on this earth than a bariatric patient on pre or post op liquids........

Soo true..I am finding out!

[motherof5 364]

There is no more dangerous a creature on this earth than a bariatric patient on pre or post op liquids........

I totally agree with you on that one Mike.

[BellaLuce4 261]

There is no more dangerous a creature on this earth than a bariatric patient on pre or post op liquids........

so true ! wish I could just sleep n wake up in a month... lol

[flipper20 19]

So you were dealing with a 16 year old while going thru the horrific caffeine free pre-op diet, huh? Really.....I don't know if it could get any worse than that! I've got two kids, 20 and 23, and the two of them often make me want to reach for a drink, which I've also given up along with the caffeine. This.... getting our lives on track..... is no easy feat! BTW.....I'm glad you didn't get a felony along the way.

I haven't gotten to the pre-op stage but I can feel your pain with the caffeine part I just said that to my husband that I need to start kicking it out and we have a 21 yr.old,20 yr old,19 yr old 2 18 yr old and a 5 yr old I need my coffee also.

[Danielle Arthur 1]

I dont have any kids just a husband who eats whatever he wants. Im trying to lose weight for my next follow up appt. i have had the hardest time losing on my own. Im highly allergic to ALL artificial sweeteners and can only tolerate a little stevia before it also tears my stomach up so i find it hard to try light and diet foods cause its in everything! Even light salad dressings! Uggh

[honeybunz 139]

There is no more dangerous a creature on this earth than a bariatric patient on pre or post op liquids........

Haha true! lol

[honeybunz 139]

I dont have any kids just a husband who eats whatever he wants. Im trying to lose weight for my next follow up appt. i have had the hardest time losing on my own. Im highly allergic to ALL artificial sweeteners and can only tolerate a little stevia before it also tears my stomach up so i find it hard to try light and diet foods cause its in everything! Even light salad dressings! Uggh

That stinks Danielle! I hope you find something that works! Good luck and best wishes to you!!

[finediva 979]

@flipper20. Drinking my delicious 20 ounce cup of coffee every morning before I even saw my three children is how I started my day. Thank you lord! My job is dealing with people's problems and issues all day long. Yeah.......caffeine kept me smiling and pleasant all day long. Now that I no longer drink it I guess my sunny disposition is all on it's own.