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I was sleeved 6/26/14 & down 35lbs. I know I could probably lose more if I did more exercising than just walking. I isn't mean to get defensive when she said what she thought but I did. How am I to handle this in the future? I have followed my plan....

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Were you losing 1/2 pound a day before your surgery???????

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Seriously? Your mother is a WLS expert?

Keep doing what you're doing. Make sure you're getting in ALL your Protein, ALL your Water. Gradually increase the amount of exercise you do -- without injuring yourself (that would set you back, eh?).

And tell your mother to back off.

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Congratulations on your FABULOUS weight loss!

Not that I'd presume to tell you what to say EVER, but this is essentially what I told my own mother:

Dear Mum, I feel so much more determined and excited to work hard on my goals when I have positive encouragement and support! If I get to a time when my doctor or I am concerned about results or progress and I need to vent - I know you'll be there for me. But for now and in the future I need you to stay fully positive about my working so freaking hard on this goal and my weight loss, and unless you can do that - we just should not talk about it at all.

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Good points! My mother has been my #supporter so it threw me when she said it - out of love of course! I have to support the fact I am changing & my family is going through this journey too.

Will I always have my defensive 'wall of fat' up?

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I totally get this and can relate. I have a sister who had the sleeve done six years ago. She continually talks about how I eat more than she ever ate at this point. She said she lost it a lot faster. Most of the family thinks she is unhealthy and doesn't get her Protein in.

I had my sleeve done on July 8, 2014. I have lost 29.1 lbs so far. I am excited about my progress, but she does make it hard. On the other hand, I have two other sisters who are super supportive and say nice things.

Stay positive and remember we are all different!

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Flip the script on her. Her comments are precisely why people judge WLS and think it's the easy way out; everyone wants to believe the weight will just magically fall off.

Now would be a good time to raise the point that it will be YOU that does the work to lose the weight. It isn't a magic fix. If in the future someone else decides to say something like that to you or about you, she'll be your biggest defender!

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You are right on with the average. Even if you worked out (unless your doing like 6hrs a day), you may not lose faster anyway. The body will only loose what it will lose when it wants. Unfortunately. :)

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thats a lot!! i wish i lost that much....i got sleeved 7/5 and have only lost 15 lbs.

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