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3 years post-op and up 40 lbs- feeling like a huge failure



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I don't even know where to begin. I must know I need to stop the snacking, carbs and coffee drinks. my butt, hips and gut are just outta control. I never made it to goal. I just don't know what's wrong with me. I need to lose 90 lbs to get to goal. I'm right back where I started 3 yrs ago. I fear I blew my opportunity to work my sleeve! it's truly depressing... sigh...

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Your sleeve is still there! You didn't blow anything. You lost 115lbs!

What do you think you need to do?

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Ditto the above. What do you feel you need to do? Have you reached out to any support to help you? Did you go back to eating like after the sleeve? What about exercise. Did you ever start that or do that?

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I've been busy the last 6 months with relocating cities so my exercise schedule had become non-existent. I know I need to get back to doing that. I've become a grazer which is something I never wanted to happen. carbs go down much better than Protein, so I've gotten too comfortable. I'm back up to 235 lbs. I just bummed that I allowed myself to lose momentum. it's a beast getting back into the groove.

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I've been busy the last 6 months with relocating cities so my exercise schedule had become non-existent. I know I need to get back to doing that. I've become a grazer which is something I never wanted to happen. carbs go down much better than Protein, so I've gotten too comfortable. I'm back up to 235 lbs. I just bummed that I allowed myself to lose momentum. it's a beast getting back into the groove.

I am in the same both I recently started 2 medications in May that make me gain weight and I've been gaining every since its very frustrated I need to do some fast im up 26 plds since December and im extremely hungry all the just started back at the gym on August 11 and lost 3 plds. Just need to lose 54 plds hoping to reach it by the end if the year or come close to it. I hope everything go back on the right track for you I no excaltly how you feel.. Good Luck

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Pagie, I know its hard, but you are back here now, and asking for help. This is a good place to be! eat a nice Protein dinner, then get to the kitchen and start getting rid of the food you know you shouldn't have. If you have family that eat it, put it someplace for them and set some ground rules. Use your MFP every day, plan Snacks (three of them if you have to!)... lay pout a couple of days of eating plans to get you off the ground. You still have a tiny tummy, you can still use it. I know its hard to get back into a routine, but maybe you can up your walking or use an exercise dvd in front of the TV or something to get you back moving. Use the old rules, protein first, no drinking with or after meals. Take your vitamins.... and come here for support! We are here for you!

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started the 5:2 plan last Monday. feeling more optimistic that I can calm the beast inside. ugh!

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Good luck to you, Pagie. If you lost 115 pounds, you can take this all the way.

Go for it!

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Great Pagie! I worked so well for me, and still does! It is the one thing between me gaining or maintaining. Check in again and let us know how its going!

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