How do you handle eating with others?

[Jersrose43 837]

So today was the day. It didn't go great but I survived. I had a brunch AND business dinner. So at brunch I asked my daughter to share a meal with me. But I still could only eat two bites. I feel like it was noticed. But no one commented. Then I had my work dinner. at the pre dinner hour I nursed a glass of wine and nibbled on a bread roll. The bread roll went down very easily. And I spread eating it out over an hour. Everyone else had starters. I was envious. It was a fancy restaurant with smaller portions. When it came time for our meals I ordered a small plate/appetizer of scallops. I don't know if it's because I'm barely out my 3rd week (mushies) or the bread or wine or all 3, but at scallop #2 I had to excuse myself and vomited in the bathroom. My fellow diners noticed that I wasn't touching my expensive meal. I blamed it on my brunch earlier and they ate the rest of my meal for me. As dinner ended I couldn't excuse myself fast enough to go be sick again. I just feel like I'm still to heavy to justify me not eating to my friends and co workers. I mean I obviously didn't get my figure by nibbling a few bites here and there. I wouldn't even east so little if was dieting Now that that this is over I only have a happy hour date and one more company dinner to navigate this month.

Was there not something appropriate with the starters? I would have had one piece of starter before having that bread.

At 3 weeks it is certainly too soon to have wine.

[Menina 8]

I agree with you cuttlecake. At brunch I saw my friend eyeballing my plate. I could have dismissed it as me reading too much into things but at dinner people did speak up and comment on my lack of eating. Hopefully I'll learn to brush it off.

[Akafij 21]

My response (When my band was working) was always "It was wonderful, I just don't eat very much" it seemed to work for me. I also only ever ordered an app or Soup.< /p>

[Forsythia 882]

At a restaurant, I just eat what I can eat without feeling like I'm going to barf and get the rest boxed up. If a waiter asks if the food wasn't to my liking I always say that everything was delicious but that I had a late lunch or a snack beforehand. With friends who know about my surgery I might offer to split what I am eating with them to save us both a little money. In a buffet like setting it is easier because there is just a table of food and you can get as little as you want. So you can just say you ate beforehand and just want a little snack or a sample of something rather than having to pile your plate full of the noms.

[ankinray 17]

Everyone has given good advice. I remember I had to take a client to lunch when I was on full liquids. I ordered a grilled chicken salad and just "played around with it". No one noticed at all and I took the "left overs" home to my husband. I suggest ordering a cup of Soup for an appetizer and have a few sips, then a piece of fish (even a shrimp appetizer-I even did this sometimes before my surgery). Bottom line-it's all how you handle it-make it "not a big deal" and no one will pay attention. Good luck!