Got my date! (Aaaaand, now I'm having 2nd thoughts)

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Capegin said:

THANK YOU ALL!!!! J bond... that hope is exactly what I'm looking for with this as my last option. I have lost up to 100 lbs on other plans (that was when I was a contestant on season 3 of Biggest Loser), and here I am. It is a vicious, nasty cycle! I know it's the right thing to do. I'm having a tough time sticking to healthy eating in the last few weeks, (start liquid tomorrow) but I know that once I get down to something and put my mind to it I'm all in. Like I said, I have amazing support, too. My husband is behind me 100%, and I have the BEST friends and family. They're not going to let me fail myself any more than I am. Thank you all for your helpful words!!

Good grief! You were on "The Biggest Loser"? I can't even begin to imagine what kind of garbage your head is filled with after going through that kind of psychological abuse.

(Yup, I have strong opinions about that show. And not many of them are positive.)

I certainly am pro-exercise, pro-good nutrition -- we must exercise and have good nutrition to be healthy human beings. But most of us who have lived a lifetime of obesity in public (and that's, of course, all of us) have a lot of other things going on, too -- physically, socially, psychologically, etc.

Have you considered adding to your support team the resource of a psychologist or psychiatrist who can support you as you learn how to use your VSG tool and find your own personal way to healthy living?

This is YOUR path. It's not your trainer's path. Or even your surgeon's path. YOUR path.

I wish you everything that's good, healthy and positive in your own journey.

Edited August 2, 2014 by VSGAnn2014

[Nurselori 37]

<p style="margin-left:0px;">Hi all!</p> <p style="margin-left:0px;">I GOT A DATE! I have been crossing my fingers since the beginning that it would be this summer as I'm a teacher, so it would minimize sick time. With almost every step, things have miraculously fallen into place, and I've been able to fly through and get appointments earlier than expected, etc. Well, the surgeon's secretary called today to say they had an opening on August 13th, and I took it. This is what I've been waiting for for months (a lifetime maybe?). </p> <p style="margin-left:0px;">And now I'm scared. I know the science behind it. I know why it's better than my previous attempts (whi*****lude everything out there). I know why I want to lose the weight and how much easier and healthier my life will be when I do. Suddenly, though, I have this nagging voice in my head. It says, "This is the easy way out. This isn't the right choice. You're rushing into this. You're still not going to keep the weight off. This is NUTS." Did any of you go through this? I know I have a great surgeon. I have read hundreds of success stories on here. I have unbelievable support from my family and friends. Still, though, I can't shake this feeling. </p> <p style="margin-left:0px;">Anyone else?</p> <p style="margin-left:0px;">-Ginnie</p>

Capegin, another difference between all the other times you've tried and this time- this time you have all of us. All of us are on the same path as you...we're all here rooting for you. We're all here to help you

Your fears are to be expected. I'd be a little concerned if you weren't experiencing them. This is a big decision. Having these emotions mean you are taking this seriously. Think back to other big decisions you've made in life. did you have similar fears? When you got married, had children, decided to go to college, graduated from college, landed that first big job, changing jobs, etc....

Life is full of decisions that are full of risk. But I'm pretty sure that before going to all those doc and nutrition appointments, convincing your husband and family, and insurance company that this is the right thing to do- you did your research. Go back through that information you collected while doing your research. Take the emotions out of the decision and just think with your noggin.

Most importantly remember, this time you have all of us. Thousands of people right here. And we all care. Truly we do. And we're going to be here every step of the way because we get it. We get what it's like to walk in your shoes. We're gonna be there for the ups AND the downs. All you have to do is reach out.....good luck honey.

[Capegin 12]

VSGAnn,

I share some of your strong opinions! But, it wasn't all bad. I did learn a lot of healthy information about nutrition that I never would have known before... which gives me a solid foundation going into this. The part that messed with my head was the pressure to be perfect and extreme. 1300 calories a day with a 2+ hour workout a day is not realistic or healthy. :-)