finally told my daughter.

[greensleeve 457]

I hadn't told her because I only wanted those close to me to know. She can have trouble keeping secrets and I didn't want to burden her with that. And if she let it slip I knew she would feel guilty.

Almost everyone in my family knows now, and my ex and his girlfriend know because they hacked my email. Long story there but I don't have to worry about them finding out now.

So I told her, she was a little upset because she thought that I had a bad stomach disease even though I never said that.

I'm just glad it's out in the open now and that she can ask me questions and I can tell her why I don't eat certain things.

I feel relieved.

[jennal10 5]

I'm glad to hear you told her. She will probably be a big support for you.

[une nouvelle vie 327]

Glad you're relieved. I know everyone has their reasons to want to keep it private, but I'm a big believer in just being YOU and this tool we're all signed up for is a lifelong thing we need to live each day. Hiding it (in my opinion only) keeps it as something to be ashamed of.

I'm not shouting it at random strangers or passing acquaintances, just like I wouldn't any other medical information, but people who really know me are going to know that I'm changing and see how I have to live differently now.

In addition, I think with so many people having the surgery now that anytime someone loses a lot of weight people assume you DID have the surgery, so why hide? I lost almost 100 pounds pre-op in preparation of the surgery and people thought I'd had surgery when I hadn't yet.

Lastly, you never know whose life you're touching. Your good example of putting your health first and getting control of your weight may serve as a role model for someone who needs it. Maybe not the person you're directly dealing with. Maybe their wife, their mother, their son, their boyfriend, their sister.

You made a great choice to live your life healthier. Be proud!

[BeagleLover 1,020]

@@une nouvelle vie 100lbs. lost pre op, quite an accomplishment!

[une nouvelle vie 327]

@@BeagleLover Thank you! As soon as I typed it I thought about editing it. From the time I started keeping track it was closer to 85 pounds pre-op rather than 100. So not QUITE 100 pounds

[BeagleLover 1,020]

@@BeagleLover Thank you! As soon as I typed it I thought about editing it. From the time I started keeping track it was closer to 85 pounds pre-op rather than 100. So not QUITE 100 pounds

@@une nouvelle vie 85 lbs. lost pre-op, quite an accomplishment!

[getnhealthyintx 281]

Good luck with everything!

[greensleeve 457]

Thanks!

I was just so nervous about it all and I really didn't want to have to deal with a million questions and comments. I was SO nervous. When I get like that I just really have a hard time being patient with people so I knew that wasn't the time to deal with an onslaught of commentary.

[maebugg75 5]

Prior to my surgery only a few people knew about it. I was nervous of their comments and didn't want to hear any negativity. I was worried about telling them out of embarrassment to. The night before Facebook I put it out on Facebook for all my friends and family to see. The comments I received ensured me I was doing the right thing. I received private messages from people asking for details afterwards because they were thinking of doing the same thing. I was such a relief to not be holding my very own personal secret anymore!!

[BeagleLover 1,020]

Prior to my surgery only a few people knew about it. I was nervous of their comments and didn't want to hear any negativity. I was worried about telling them out of embarrassment to. The night before Facebook I put it out on Facebook for all my friends and family to see. The comments I received ensured me I was doing the right thing. I received private messages from people asking for details afterwards because they were thinking of doing the same thing. I was such a relief to not be holding my very own personal secret anymore!!

Glad to hear it went so well for you!